All so true!!! Dh's best man at our wedding and his partner have bothered to see us about 4 times through the whole pregnancy (not for lack of me trying I might add - even offered to cook tea on Friday night at 39 wks +6 for them and his partners new BFF and husband but they had a better offer) and they're demanding to know next in line to our parents........ hmmmmmmm!!!
I'm thinking I might just turn into a hermit in hospital and make them all wait, but I know I'll be too excited to make my thoughts of revenge actually happen!
I've spent the entire pregnancy with people asking "Where's the father? Who's the father? What does your ex think? Your family? blah blah" - basically asking everything except for the most obvious "How are YOU, and is there anything I can do to help".
Not to mention the tonnes of people who said they would "be there for me" and "catch up" and then disappeared during the tough back issues I've had during pregnancy, only now to be waiting and waiting to meet the baby. Again..what about "How are YOU".
I've swapped mobiles so I have an unfamiliar number ready to take to hospital - only two or three people have the number and have been told they can visit without asking. Each of those people has been put in charge of a group of mutual friends who they are going to pass the birth announcement onto along with instruction that they must ring before visiting. So I guess I've kinda put bodyguards in the way.
Another thing to do is a message on your voicemail saying when you are ready for visitors, or before bub is due leaving a daily status update for everyone and then just not answering calls!
I will just lose the plot to think that I've got this far along, so much alone, only to have everyone turning up at the hospital wanting a look at the kid and ignoring me.
Sounds like everyone's in the same boat. I had my husbands grandparents just drop in today. Too bad if I was in labour....... What do i do then!! Lucky it was only twinges I could smile through. And Mum's ringing me with suggestions to get the baby moving..... And I have to admit she just copped it when she rang to see if I'd heard of rasberry leaf extract (no just been pregnant for 40 weeks and never heard of it). Yesterday's suggestion was to go to bed and get 'cosy' with my husband. Really not the sort of suggestion you want from your mother!!!!
Thank you all so much for your posts!
It makes me feel a little more normal and well less alone!
With DD we were vague with our dates and she ended up coming early, with this one though we were still a little vague but with october now being over, everyone knows that Im overdue!
Oh well!
I wish I'd told a couple of people a later due date - I'm really sick of being told by MIL to ring as soon as I go into labour. Why? She won't be allowed in until after the birth and when I'm well and truly ready to have visitors!!
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