Would you be ok with DH going out drinking at 37+ weeks
I have told DH he can go out the next few weeks with his mates drinking/their houses etc.
I am 37 weeks with DD at home (he wont come home after - will stay at their house).
I dont really have a problem with it as i am tired as and will go to bed anyhow but I guess only worried if i go into labour and cant get in touch with him
I'd be ok with it. Just make sure he has his mobile phone fully charged and switched on all night. If you go into labour you can call the ambulance and he can catch a taxi to the hospital, so he should have some taxi money on him as well. But there's a good chance you won't go into labour.
You know what? I don't think I would be ok with it.
I have two friends who have given birth in an hour or less (one of them was 20 mins!!! ) and if DH is trying to get a taxi, or out somewhere and can't hear me on the phone, I'd be worried he's going to miss it.
But it is my first so I have no idea how long or short it will be.
Also I am a complete princess ( ) and I would want him by my side as soon as I started feeling twinges, membranes ruptured, whatever.
My DH wanted to go interstate for a boys trip (scuba diving so very little drinking involved) in Jan, when I will be about 36 weeks - and I said I didn't want him to go! He said he could catch the first plane back etc etc but I just don't want to risk not having him around.
yeah i let dh let his hair down a few weeks before the birth .. the week before my due date he was out with his mates .. and the week dd was born , he went out drinking ...
everytime i tell him that he has to come home around 1am ... usually stumbles in around 3 am .. im never happy about it , but he is an adult ...
just make sure he is contactable easily and ask him to tone it down a bit , although its unlikely that men would listen to us
Kuraiza - it is hard as how can you know when you will go into labour. With DD he missed my labour and walked in during crowning as i progressed so quickly.
Ocean - interstate mmm no thanks! hehe that would definately be a no go!. hehe. with DD he had a business trip to attend when i was far along and he told him boss i had to go with him! or he wouldnt go! lol
I think it depends on your DH, and how heavy of a drinker he is. I would have no issues with my DH doing it, as he is not a big drinker anyway, and given the situation, probably wouldnt have any more then one or two, so he can still drive.
Although, the chances are, you wont go into labour. Perhaps someone at the house wont be drinking? Or, you can get one of your DH's friends partners to be on stand by to pick him up if need be, and bring him to hossi. But, a drunk DH mighten be much use anyway.
OP - Interstate, def not. Wouldnt go for that. Business, well, not much you can do about it, but, for pleasure, then no way.
I was ok with it.
When pg with DS we were 2 hours from our birthing hospital. I went & stayed with the ILs while DH stayed here & worked.
He had to travel 2 hours. Made it 1.5 hours before DS was born. Labour was 5 hours long! Afte 18 & 30 for my first two!!
with DD I actually encouraged my ex to go out for hsi 21st - he came home at 5 in the morning sayng that he was flying in a hot air balloon
then he fell asleep in the bath and i had to pull him out - yes, i literally at 39 weeks, pulled a fully grown "man" out of the bath (was scared he would drown, should have left him!) DD was born two days later.
This time round - no way - but DH wouldnt be contemplating it anyway.
Well it depends, then, how far away he'll be. Will he be further than he would be while he is at work? I suppose, though, when you've been drinking you do sleep more heavily, so he might not hear the phone.
If you had such a quick labour last time, maybe it's not a great idea for him to stray too far from home for an all-nighter. I'd say he should go out drinking, but he shouldn't stay out all night long. There's no harm in coming home by 12. It is a little bit of a limitation, but since you're sacrificing 9 months without alcohol ... Also, coming home by 12 means he can't drink all night long. I wouldn't want a wasted man by my side stinking of beer when I'm in labour, that's for sure.
I wouldn't considering how fast your previous labour was. Life does go on but this is about PRIORITIES!
If he must go, I think he needs to be contactable and also able to get to the hospital when he's needed (i.e. he can go out but not get so p!ssed that he can't drive).
I wouldn't and don't have a problem with it - having said that though, he knows that regardless of how much he has drunk and what time it is, I need to be able to contact him so if he was going to drink so much or sleep so heavily he wouldn't answer it might be different. Last weekend (I was 389 weeks that day ) we went to a Grand Final BBQ down on the coast - a drive of at least over an hour to our hospital..... he said Oh I'm not taking beers with me because I will have to drive.. well guess who drove him home later that night! AND I was having major back pain all night! ah the things we do for the ones we love!
Up to you really hun but I would make sure that there is some way you can be in contact if you need to.
Drinking that late on was outlawed in our household.
There was no way I was going to have a drunk in the labour ward with me. I really can't think of anything worse than going through that with him standing next to me reeking of Jim Beam.
My DF was happy to go along with it. This rule only came into force when I hit 37 weeks.
I was however a little paranoid about drinking and pregnancy because of the story of a girl I used to work with.
She got pre eclampsia which very quickly went into eclampsia. She was in a lot of pain as her organs were starting to be affected and all her drunk husband could say to her was - it can't be the baby it's way too early, it must be something you've eaten. Fair enough she was only in the second tri. Her mum came and took her to hossy (1. because he didn't think there was anything wrong & 2. because he was way to drunk to be behind the wheel) and she had an emergency c section soon after while he was sleeping it off at home. I think he just might've copped an earful when she recovered many weeks later.
I would let Adam, but he isnt a big drinker, and is very reliable.
But when I had Kane, a mum came in around midnight, ( I was in the nursery pumping!) in full labour, followed later by a drunk partner. He was a complete pain in the a$$. He was noisy, woke up babies, and the nurses had to kick him out of the whole hospital and call security to keep him away.... how charming... and something to consider if your DH will be drunk....
purple - we are the same.
DH isnt a big drinker and very responsible when he does.
They arent nights of benders.. it think just a chance to see his mates before bub arrives (as he knows then,,, mmmmm these nights will be few and far between!)
HELL NO!!!! 1) wanted him around in case i went into labout 2) didnt want a drunk in the room with me 3) alcohol on breath and coming out of skin and clothes would have made me sick, 4) if i had to go through pain he could cope with missing a few drinking sessions.
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Would you be ok with DH going out drinking at 37+ weeks
) and if DH is trying to get a taxi, or out somewhere and can't hear me on the phone, I'd be worried he's going to miss it.
) and I would want him by my side as soon as I started feeling twinges, membranes ruptured, whatever.
) we went to a Grand Final BBQ down on the coast - a drive of at least over an hour to our hospital..... he said Oh I'm not taking beers with me because I will have to drive.. well guess who drove him home later that night! AND I was having major back pain all night!
ah the things we do for the ones we love!
it was celebratory drinks apparently
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