I wouldn't considering how fast your previous labour was. Life does go on but this is about PRIORITIES!
If he must go, I think he needs to be contactable and also able to get to the hospital when he's needed (i.e. he can go out but not get so p!ssed that he can't drive).
I wouldn't and don't have a problem with it - having said that though, he knows that regardless of how much he has drunk and what time it is, I need to be able to contact him so if he was going to drink so much or sleep so heavily he wouldn't answer it might be different. Last weekend (I was 389 weeks that day ) we went to a Grand Final BBQ down on the coast - a drive of at least over an hour to our hospital..... he said Oh I'm not taking beers with me because I will have to drive.. well guess who drove him home later that night! AND I was having major back pain all night! ah the things we do for the ones we love!
Up to you really hun but I would make sure that there is some way you can be in contact if you need to.
Drinking that late on was outlawed in our household.
There was no way I was going to have a drunk in the labour ward with me. I really can't think of anything worse than going through that with him standing next to me reeking of Jim Beam.
My DF was happy to go along with it. This rule only came into force when I hit 37 weeks.
I was however a little paranoid about drinking and pregnancy because of the story of a girl I used to work with.
She got pre eclampsia which very quickly went into eclampsia. She was in a lot of pain as her organs were starting to be affected and all her drunk husband could say to her was - it can't be the baby it's way too early, it must be something you've eaten. Fair enough she was only in the second tri. Her mum came and took her to hossy (1. because he didn't think there was anything wrong & 2. because he was way to drunk to be behind the wheel) and she had an emergency c section soon after while he was sleeping it off at home. I think he just might've copped an earful when she recovered many weeks later.
I would let Adam, but he isnt a big drinker, and is very reliable.
But when I had Kane, a mum came in around midnight, ( I was in the nursery pumping!) in full labour, followed later by a drunk partner. He was a complete pain in the a$$. He was noisy, woke up babies, and the nurses had to kick him out of the whole hospital and call security to keep him away.... how charming... and something to consider if your DH will be drunk....
purple - we are the same.
DH isnt a big drinker and very responsible when he does.
They arent nights of benders.. it think just a chance to see his mates before bub arrives (as he knows then,,, mmmmm these nights will be few and far between!)
HELL NO!!!! 1) wanted him around in case i went into labout 2) didnt want a drunk in the room with me 3) alcohol on breath and coming out of skin and clothes would have made me sick, 4) if i had to go through pain he could cope with missing a few drinking sessions.
Yes I'd be ok with it (on the understanding that it's not going to happen very much once bubs is born ) provided you have both worked out a plan B. ie - not only someone you can call but someone who can go and get him if he's not answering phone, etc. Also I'd be negotiating the extent of the drinkies, ie a few leaves you able to sober up in an hour or so but any more than that (ie getting sh*tfaced) is not acceptable. KWIM?
Hmm. Well it depends on details I think, how many drinks and how far away etc. My DH isn't a big drinker at all, has never actually been drunk in his life! and hasn't been out to go drinking ever in the 4yrs we've been together. He has gone out for dinner or a movie and then had a drink or 2 with the boys. So I think I would feel comfortable with him going out but I would want him home for the night (he would always be home by 10.30-11 at latest) and I wouldn't want him intoxicated at any point!
You had a very quick 1st labour and 2nd will probably be quicker, while unlikely you'll go into labour 3weeks early it certainly could happen. Aside from worrying about your DH hearing his phone and making it to the hosp what about if he is too drunk to be helpful or remember the birth? Or if the hospital makes a fuss because he is drunk? What if anything happened and decisions need to be made kwim? Also if you go into labour you might need help getting last things packed, things in the car and sorting out your dd
Maybe DH could do something else to have a last boys time before having a newborn again. Maybe you could get someone to watch dd and have a dad where u go out with the girls and he goes with the boys. GoKarting or something but not too far away and no alcohol etc
Here,here Iam with you hollo,totally agree with you,why should they be out with their mates,especially if you go into labour. Men just have it too,EASY!!!!!!!
Pink,
Hmmm I can see that this is a touchy subject for some, I'm lucky DH rarely if ever drinks and doesn't go very far and always has a phone! In saying that he travels quite a way for work and is on call, he could easily miss the birth!
Problem is that there are so many varibles and looks like your birth this time will be fairly quick! I'd be putting a phone restriction on him that he needs to have it on if he goes out, surely if you kept ringing someone would hear it!!!!
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) we went to a Grand Final BBQ down on the coast - a drive of at least over an hour to our hospital..... he said Oh I'm not taking beers with me because I will have to drive.. well guess who drove him home later that night! AND I was having major back pain all night!
ah the things we do for the ones we love!
it was celebratory drinks apparently
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