Would you be ok with DH going out drinking at 37+ weeks

[AnyDream]

Yes I'd be ok with it (on the understanding that it's not going to happen very much once bubs is born ) provided you have both worked out a plan B. ie - not only someone you can call but someone who can go and get him if he's not answering phone, etc. Also I'd be negotiating the extent of the drinkies, ie a few leaves you able to sober up in an hour or so but any more than that (ie getting sh*tfaced) is not acceptable. KWIM?

[~Raven~]

No way!

He has a responsibility to me and his family a that stage of PG. Bub could arrive at any time and he needs to be both available and fully functioning. Both would not happen if he went out for a few drinks.

[aussienic]

When I was 36 weeks pg with Ds3 I had a show and some mild contractions.. Dh had a work thing on and still went.. I was furious! (contractions were noted by the hosp so they weren't just maybe contracts)

I personally think I would ask him to drink steady and maybe stay sober enough to be able to get to the hosp.. even if he takes a Taxi not drive.. Just ask him to take it easy and be aware it might happen

[M22]

no way i gave birth at 37 weeks!! and i knew i was gonna go early as well.

[Jas]

Hmm. Well it depends on details I think, how many drinks and how far away etc. My DH isn't a big drinker at all, has never actually been drunk in his life! and hasn't been out to go drinking ever in the 4yrs we've been together. He has gone out for dinner or a movie and then had a drink or 2 with the boys. So I think I would feel comfortable with him going out but I would want him home for the night (he would always be home by 10.30-11 at latest) and I wouldn't want him intoxicated at any point!

You had a very quick 1st labour and 2nd will probably be quicker, while unlikely you'll go into labour 3weeks early it certainly could happen. Aside from worrying about your DH hearing his phone and making it to the hosp what about if he is too drunk to be helpful or remember the birth? Or if the hospital makes a fuss because he is drunk? What if anything happened and decisions need to be made kwim? Also if you go into labour you might need help getting last things packed, things in the car and sorting out your dd

Maybe DH could do something else to have a last boys time before having a newborn again. Maybe you could get someone to watch dd and have a dad where u go out with the girls and he goes with the boys. GoKarting or something but not too far away and no alcohol etc

[Nadine216]

No

Daddies don't go out drinking till wee-morning hours, while mommies stay at home ... just MO. It's not on.

To tell the truth .. my husband has a drinking problem and he drank right through my first pregnancy until dd was about 9 months old. Thankfully he has stopped now and are recovering, but NO I would not have gave him permission to go out drinking with mates.

I WOULD however give him permission to go and do some fishing/diving/ab-sailing (whatever he fancy) just to give him a break and get some "him" time (yeah, men need that too ) But I'll have in reachable .... just in case baby decide to come early.

We have this guy that is a regular at our shop, old guy, very lovable. He was a full-blown alcoholic in his younger years. Here is what happend to him:

He was working the mines when his wife went into labour. His boss took him home and let him shower ... but once home, they "enjoyed" a celebration drink ... which quickly turned into more than just a celebration ... quick visit to the liqiour store ... quick drink at the bar. He got to the hossie eventually .. SMASHED out of his skull. Asked the janitor mopping the floors where the lady is that is giving birth. The janitor pointed to one of the rooms and he just stormed in and grabbed his wife's hand. She was about 2 minutes away from giving birth and was in alot of pain, but he held her hand, said nice words to her and urged her to push. The baby was born and the Dr turns to him and says: "Congratulations Mr Brown, it's a girl" ... That's when it hit him ... he is not Mr Brown ... he is Mr Keyser So the woman finally looked at him and noticed that he is not her husband. He was then escorted to HIS wife in the next birthing suit ... she had already given birth, he missed it. Funnier even more ... Mr Brown was the owner of the liqiourstore's wife.

[mummy of many]

Here,here Iam with you hollo,totally agree with you,why should they be out with their mates,especially if you go into labour. Men just have it too,EASY!!!!!!!

[Jesska08]

No

Daddies don't go out drinking till wee-morning hours, while mommies stay at home ... just MO. It's not on.

To tell the truth .. my husband has a drinking problem and he drank right through my first pregnancy until dd was about 9 months old. Thankfully he has stopped now and are recovering, but NO I would not have gave him permission to go out drinking with mates.

I WOULD however give him permission to go and do some fishing/diving/ab-sailing (whatever he fancy) just to give him a break and get some "him" time (yeah, men need that too ) But I'll have in reachable .... just in case baby decide to come early.

We have this guy that is a regular at our shop, old guy, very lovable. He was a full-blown alcoholic in his younger years. Here is what happend to him:

He was working the mines when his wife went into labour. His boss took him home and let him shower ... but once home, they "enjoyed" a celebration drink ... which quickly turned into more than just a celebration ... quick visit to the liqiour store ... quick drink at the bar. He got to the hossie eventually .. SMASHED out of his skull. Asked the janitor mopping the floors where the lady is that is giving birth. The janitor pointed to one of the rooms and he just stormed in and grabbed his wife's hand. She was about 2 minutes away from giving birth and was in alot of pain, but he held her hand, said nice words to her and urged her to push. The baby was born and the Dr turns to him and says: "Congratulations Mr Brown, it's a girl" ... That's when it hit him ... he is not Mr Brown ... he is Mr Keyser So the woman finally looked at him and noticed that he is not her husband. He was then escorted to HIS wife in the next birthing suit ... she had already given birth, he missed it. Funnier even more ... Mr Brown was the owner of the liqiourstore's wife.

lol must have been a small town?

[PinkPalace]

what about if he is too drunk to be helpful or remember the birth? Or if the hospital makes a fuss because he is drunk?
Jas - DH doesnt drink like this. He has a couple with his mates - totally coherent.

But i hear you on the quick labour thing.! scary!

[*charmalea*]

omg about the eclampsia story .. you never know whaty could happen , my dh would be let out , but i think he would be careful ...

BUT when Gabriella was 48 hours old , he had a work do (he organised it ) and i had to drive him there and then told him to be home at 1 .. i rung him about 2 and asked him where he was and he had missed the last train and was walking home , from brisbane to ipswich ... he got an earful when he got home and was summoned to the couch and was made to do all the house work the next day !!

also my sisters DH was drunk on the night she gave birth ,as soon as her waters broke , that was it he was as sober as sober could be ...

[PinkPalace]

Lea - i think being in labour and having a baby would sober anyone up!
AND OMG walking from brisbane to ipswich!!

Well i can safetly say i dont have any feelings that i am going to be having this baby in the next 24 hrs so ....

[MantaRay]

Best of luck PP. My DH had his last "night out" before DS2 was born when I was 36 weeks. DS2 was born 3 days later.

[PinkPalace]

lol! thanks mel! hehe.
Well i thought his last day out was the bucks night a few weeks back, then the bledisloe, then drinks... oh well maybe tonight...

Ill just keep building up brownie points in my secret mind diary of event he goes to ! lol

[Jas]

Well PP I think it sounds like it would be fine I would just maybe think about a few things-

1. Could DH stay close to home/the hospital just in case

2. Could he come home to sleep so there's no chance of him sleeping through a phone call

3.Could he space his drinks so that he is always able to drive in case you need him to come get you to go to the hosp.

Hope your DH has a fun night and it all works out, I'm sure it will!

[gypsy79]

My DH is a groomsman in a wedding 4 days before I'm due - and it's 2 hours from home! I'm invited too and will probably be there, but I've told him he's not allowed to drink so much that he's smashed in case I go into labour. And if I do go to the wedding, I'll be taking someone else with me who can drive us home in case I go into labour and DH has had a few too many to drive.

[PinkPalace]

thanks jas
sounds like a good plan gypsy! i hope you make it!

[Snoopea]

Pink,
Hmmm I can see that this is a touchy subject for some, I'm lucky DH rarely if ever drinks and doesn't go very far and always has a phone! In saying that he travels quite a way for work and is on call, he could easily miss the birth!

Problem is that there are so many varibles and looks like your birth this time will be fairly quick! I'd be putting a phone restriction on him that he needs to have it on if he goes out, surely if you kept ringing someone would hear it!!!!

We just can't win can we!!!!!

Snoopea

[smiles4u]

I have to say ... a few years ago I was at a friends home bbq dinner & there was a woman there with her partner ... her due date was that day & it was her 1st baby ... she & everyone else watched her partner get drunk to the hilt ... even after she begged him not to get drunk

She was so miserable & incredibly anxious ... it was so heartbreaking to watch her worry ... as she ended up driving herself home unwell & in the heat

IF it was me I wouldn't take the chance ... even if my partner isn't a heavy drinker which he isn't !!