DS16 was told "you are crap" by a teacher

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I would be furious if that happened to my son. It happened to me (teacher called me thick) and it isn't something you get over, someone who is supposed to be able to make a value judgement on you and your work dismissing it like that.

FWIW, in the UK doing that sort of thing gets you black marks on your permanent record and can even get you barred from teaching if it is more than a one-off.

[Amity]

During my articles year, I was told by my "mentor" (I use those inverted commas for a reason) that I would "never amount to anything as a lawyer".

Let's just say when I won the State's best junior advocate award, two years later, I faxed him a copy of the newspaper article. Anonymously

But yes, it still sticks in my mind years later. Good on your DS for standing up to her. Her behaviour is unacceptable.

[Miss.September]

During my articles year, I was told by my "mentor" (I use those inverted commas for a reason) that I would "never amount to anything as a lawyer".

Let's just say when I won the State's best junior advocate award, two years later, I faxed him a copy of the newspaper article. Anonymously

But yes, it still sticks in my mind years later. Good on your DS for standing up to her. Her behaviour is unacceptable.

Yep, same thing with DH's teacher. DH was told he was crap at maths and would never ever be an electrician. It made him strive harder once he left school and he's now been an electrician for 13 years.

I agree what the teacher said should never have been said, but hopefully it will have a positive outcome for your son. And yay for him that he was brave enough to say something back.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I'm glad it made your DH try harder, Pac. I just gave up. I mean, if your teacher thinks you're too thick what chance do you really stand? I don't cope with even "well-intentioned" lying very well: if someone says you are crap then there must be a reason for it. I didn't even apply for the careers I had originally wanted to take at school. And am doing something completely different now.

This does need taking further and reporting.

[Miss.September]

I'm glad it made your DH try harder, Pac. I just gave up. I mean, if your teacher thinks you're too thick what chance do you really stand? I don't cope with even "well-intentioned" lying very well: if someone says you are crap then there must be a reason for it. I didn't even apply for the careers I had originally wanted to take at school. And am doing something completely different now.

This does need taking further and reporting.

I don't think it's well intentioned lying, I think it's just mean! Teachers should never say things like that to students, I just wanted to say that it did have a positive outcome in the end for my DH.

[Purple Penguin]

She said what? That is dusgusting behaviour, take it up with the Principal and if he/she won't do anything then take it further.