If you know it wasn't her pursue it! So what if they think you're 'one of those' mothers if you don't look out for her who will. Maybe her regular teacher will agree it would not have been your DD and have a chat with the music teacher. It would do her good to not be so dismissive when communicating(or not) with the kids. Obviously playtime can't be given back to your DD but at least she'll know you and possibly her regular teacher believe it wasn't her. I don't like the sound of the naughty spot anyway
See, I'm not sure I'd pursue it. If it was happening a lot, then absolutely but I think in any child's life they are going to get blamed for something they didn't do. If it was my child, I'd probably have a talk to her and say that I believed her but that sometimes teachers make mistakes. I'd probably ask her if she wanted me to talk to the teacher or not.
I agree with FIonas. Sometimes there are battles worth fighting, and others that are not. I guess what would be the point if talking to the teacher, if she is intimidating it maybe more trouble than its worth - absolutely if it happens again I would go to the school, but as a one off, I would try to help your child realise that sometimes people make mistakes and sometimes its important to to let things go - also you can't jump in to fight her battles for her after the situation happens all the time. Unless its really big and she is being hurt.
But at the same time it doesn't hurt to say to the class teacher "I think there was some misunderstanding yesterday with the music teacher and my DD was very upset last night, and I just wanted to let you know" rather than going in guns blazing and trying to get to the bottom of it... Cause to be honest, you won't. There is always two sides, and while I too think it was a misunderstanding teachers are busy and sometimes kids just need to let it go and listen. Not fair. But life often isn't, and I really believe its our job as parents to help kids cope with the unfair, not protect them from it or fix things.
IMHO
sucks to see your little one so upset though, ill bet
I think it's a good life lesson for her. Sometimes people think you are guilty of things you aren't guilty of. It will happen throughout her school life, whether it be peers or teachers accusing her. Better for her to learn how to deal with it than you going to the school about it.
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