There are two teachers in particular that DS15 has a problem with, they touch him. He hates being touched. When he is being told off each of these teachers have placed their hands on DS and one of them has literally yelled in his face. He said he placed his pencil case up to his face, she was centimetres from him. He has told each of them to get their hands off him and then been sent out of class. One of them has left a msg for me to ring and talk about DS's behaviour, I am going to tell her not to touch him again and if he is not behaving to send him to the principal. I don't understand why she rings me, yes I can talk to him about his behaviour but if he is messing up in class the school should be dealing with it, in my opinion.
If he is messing up at school then its EVERYBODY'S problem and as a parent you should be working with him and the school on trying to sort all this out instead of leaving it all up to the school and they probably think it's pretty important that you help support him and work through this as well and that is why they are calling you. I agree that if someone doesn't like their personal space invaded then something needs to be sorted out about that, but having spoken with teachers about different areas of behaviour management of children (for uni) their biggest gripe is the total lack of assistance from parents because it makes their job so much harder. If it were me I would do everything I could to try to help him out.
IMO I dont think it is solely the teachers responsibility to dicipline your child, when i was in school, if i knew i wouldnt get in trouble from mum for x,y,z i would do it, just cause i could get away with it. I think you need to ask him why is he acting out? As for the touching, totally out of line, especially if he likes his personal space. She rings you because you are his mother and the only person who can make decisions about his welfare and schooling. Getting your back up wont do your son any good at all.
Whenever I have received a phone call myself or DH have sat down with DS and talked about it. I appreciate the school ringing me to let me know if he is misbehaving but I don't see the school doing anything about this. He has never once been disciplined by the school so how can I work with the school?
Hun, he is still your son and it's his behaviour that is the problem here. Do you recognise that something must have been going on for a little while before that teacher went off in his face?
Could you ask your son what he could have done to change the outcome of that situation?
Alot of kids have some sort of problem with authority or discipline, but he has to know about respecting the teachers that are trying to teach him.
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