Thanks everyone.
Dd is the same that I feel she is under simulated even with play dates every day .

When we went enquiring at preschools she walked in and introduced herself to the teacher and say down and asked to play with another girl without prompting. And the teacher told me she told her ask about moving and about her brother, this was how excited she was to be there ...sweet thing.

I guess it is just the negativity that gets me down. I was 4 when I stated kindy in sydney to and I think I was fine
I actually didn't realise I was younger than everyone until I was 11 and moved to brisbane.