My middle DD is in Grade 5 this year. She has had some few problems with concentration and writing, but seems to be coping okay, well, so I thought!

I have been paying almost $60 a week for her to see an occupational therapist for one session a week for the past 2.5 years, just to help her along!

Last year she got the best end of year report ever and was doing soooo well, it amazed us all!

WELL..this afternoon I go to speak to her teacher about her being bullied, harrassed and intimidated by other students, he has promised to sort it out, BUT he then goes on to tell me that DD is very immature, her writing is about 3 yrs behind where it should be, her reading is up to standard BUT in virtually every other aspect she is so far behind that its not funny!

HUH??? Why has it taken this long for someone to tell me this? He is a brand new teacher to the school and since they are only in their 3rd week back and almost 2 of those he was only there part days due to the swimming program, how can he tell me what is happening with my child? How can he know what she is like?

So now I am wondering if I have wasted all this $$ on OT for it to be doing nothing, especially as she is on her 3rd different OT and this one is sending me the notes home on her session and she is about where she was 18 months ago.

Do I cancel OT and have her reassessed elsewhere? Do I pull her out and drop her back a grade or 2 at another school? I just dont know!

DD is really clever, is a huge manipulator, and can work well most of the time, especially if pushed a little. Hates writing, but will do it, I know that she has a few problems, but I am feeling like everything I have done for almost 3 yrs is a total waste and I will need to start again!

I am hoping that someone can offer some advice as to what I can try, do, or do I speak to the teacher again and ask him if he thinks that I should put OT on hold for a while?