Would you go into debt for your childs secondary education?

[Liz]

yeah.. I was just being cheeky And you're right in one respect.. I don't want education being drummed into my kids as the thing that makes or breaks them.. that they won't get anywhere without it. If Private schools churn out people that believe it's the most important thing, then that's not for us

If an employer rejected my kids on the grounds of WHERE they went to school as opposed to their score, their presentation, their personality, then I would be telling them it wouldn't be a good environment to work in anyway.. find more reasonable people to work for.

Heck.. my DH failed his HSC twice, and is now very employable in an industry that he loves, and is more valuable than people coming out with uni degrees (same with my bro.. cept he didn't flunk high school.. just didn't go to uni)

I guess our own life experiences influence us more than anything else. If pieces of paper are what have gotten people through life before, then they know no different and pass this on to their kids. Just as we are passing on to our kids that you don't need pieces of paper or expensive schooling to tell you you're valuable or employable

[Bathsheba]

Ok...Liz, I have worked something out LOL We misunderstand each other about something:

I don't want my children to value pieces of paper or doing an education for education's sake. I want my children to develop their natural curiosity... to become passionate about learning stuff that interests them... to not have all the enthusiasm for learning stuff squashed out of them... to not have to wait until every student is silent and sitting up straight to ask a question... I want my children's natural talents identified and shined so that they are bright in a NATURAL way that THEY find fulfilling. To get this they need inspired and inspiring teachers... who have the ability to actually teach (and not just discipline)... and who teach with passion.

This is why I said I don't care if my DD grows up to be a garbage collector... JUST as long as her talents are used somehow in life. When I attend parent teacher interviews the focus is on how my DD's personal talents are being polished. Personally I expect to hear that "hmmm, your DD is ruling the classroom and talking too much in class" (which they do tell me usually as needed via a phone convo) but instead I hear "Your DD has leadership potential, lets get her involved in the Future Leaders club". From what I know of the private system it has a strong focus on the individual... it is a system that makes something negative (ie outspokenness) into something positive... turns evil powers into good LOL

So do you "get" that I'm not seeking "bits of paper" for my kids? I honestly just want them to be respected in their learning journey and to be able to show respect to others and to most importantly shine as people, not just as future employees. Sounds like an interesting book too BTW (Robert Kyosaki's) I'll look into it

[Liz]

Yep and with that post you could almost convert me Bath LOL. But I think you'll have success with your plans because you're on that same page. I think the parent's attitude and participation plays a huge part in what kids make of their schooling. I probably sound completely anti private schooling, but I'm not As I said, we all have different priorities and focus in life Not that I don't want my kids to shine.. just don't see it as necessary to go into debt for it when plenty of people shine with public education.

I couldn't lump all public teachers into the uninspired box tho. Yes they probably have smaller budgets and less resources, but hopefully we can find a school with passionate teachers I'm sure there is good and bad within the private schools too.. and even personality clashes with certain students and teachers.. paying a fee isn't going to guarantee that the teacher will gel with your child and tune in to their talents, or that the teacher doesn't have some issues of their own affecting their performance.

But it's hard to deny the attitude that the private system is fostering.. that their students are more employable etc.. if employers are discriminating on that point alone (maybe that question should be a no-no in interviews just like asking someone's religion, or even their age is!) It sounds like a big marketing campaign actually. It's a bit like these training colleges that guarantee employment. They've struck deals with employers and made a name for themselves, so now they can hike up the fees based on reputation & demand alone.

[Lulu]

I agree Div - a private education can certainly be the 'golden ticket' - and I most definitely agree with you there too Liz.
I KNOW my private education got me a couple of jobs over not having one. But I left them anyway cos I can rock it with the 'corporations of the world' no problem - I just don't want to.

The other thing to consider is how LONG that golden tickets lasts for. It doesn't last forever, there comes a point in your life where your secondary education or even Uni education doesn't mean much at all. It's the actual mark you make, not the paper in a frame on the wall...

xoxoxoxo

[Phteven]

I attended both private and public schools and the teachers who inspired me most were the ones I encountered in the public system, they had a passion for education that just wasn't evident in the teachers in any of my private schools.

I think the world is changing a great deal in terms of the golden ticket/old boys network. Most large companies no longer hire in house, instead they outsource it to HR companies who use aptitude testing, role-playing and so on to match jobs with the people best suited to them. Why? To avoid the costs associated with hiring staff that don't measure up via the old-boy network. I think that this attitude to hire is becoming more and more prevelant. I certainly wouldn't even bother looking at where a person went to school if I was resume checking and as Lulu pointed out the longer it has been since you left school the less relevant it is.

[Bathsheba]

Sadly that's not the case in the banking industry Bron Common practise when the managers are looking for new assistant staff from the Graduate Program is (because there are sooo many applicants) to narrow down the list by using certain criteria. Even though it might have been several years since the applicant was at highschool they will give preference to the privately educated ones. DH says that from experience (amongst all the managers he knows) these are the applicants who have the interpersonal skills required for the job: good grooming... good speech patterns... ability to quickly establish rapport with clients to name a few. But DH works in the private banking sector where the clients are very high net worth clients who generally have very high expectations in these areas. But... still... I'd say "meh" too... who'd want to work for a bank anyhow? but it does happen.

[Phteven]

Sadly that's not the case in the banking industry Bron

Bath, I think it will be the practice in the banking industry in Australia in a few years. My uncle is a director of one of the large English banks and his bank has done a lot to eliminate the old boy network because they want a higher standard of employee. When he was the director of an Australian bank a few years ago they were just starting to make changes that English banks had made a few years previously. I suspect that in employment too Australia is a few years behind.

[Lulu]

Bath, I think it will be the practice in the banking industry in Australia in a few years. My uncle is a director of one of the large English banks and his bank has done a lot to eliminate the old boy network because they want a higher standard of employee. When he was the director of an Australian bank a few years ago they were just starting to make changes that English banks had made a few years previously. I suspect that in employment too Australia is a few years behind.

Very very true. I can attest to that because I've been working for my father (psychologist) for the past 15 years. One of the biggest HR companies in Aus uses his aptitude tests for the upper end employment of all the big industries (hr, mining etc). They came to him years ago because they were sick of losing thousands of $$$ employing people that looked good on paper but not up to scratch in reality.

You know, it's AMAZING how many people in high corporate roles really truly want to be out painting landscapes instead....

[Astrid]

It is so interesting how our education experiences are so different. For my first 2 years of high school I went to the 2nd worst school in the area, it was bad, it was falling down, had rat, kids pulled knives on teachers etc. You know what though? I received the best education at that school. The teachers were passionate to teach those who were willing to learn. In year 8 I was top 97% in the state for maths and top 95% for science, I was also Dux one semester. Yes this school had a bad rep, but if you came out of it with good marks it actually made you very employable as it meant you were smart.

For year 9 & 10 I went to one of the top schools in the area as we had moved, it was the public equivalent of a private school. My education plummeted, there was so much more favouritism amongst the teachers who actually tried to be friends with the popular kids. They were so hell bend on school averages that if you were average or doing well you were ingored. A lot of effort was put into the kids who could not wait to leave when they hit 16. They had a horrible self learn system that was just not for me, I lost my love for science and was falling to the bottom of the class (to silly to know that self learn meant cheating, not learning). I was still top at maths, but the maths teacher had his favourites and ignored their cheating, so I looked liked I was bottom of the advanced maths class. It all came out in the maths competitions that I was actually good at maths and his favourites were not.

I deeply regret the change in schools, I was warned by the teachers to not make the change. Anyway what I am getting at? Basically that reputation may not be the best bearing on what is the better school for my children. I would much rather help fund raise for a public school that meets the needs of my children than give money to a private school that may look good for them to have on a resume.

[Liz]

I've known lists of applicants to be culled based on their names... if they have an asian name they mustn't speak clear english, so they get struck off the list!! Yes, this prejudice still exists too! (guess that'll be my problem if I want to be employed again now LOL) But then it's no worse than assuming a publicly educated person can't present themselves and deal with clients in a professional manner.

You're right.. who'd wanna work for a bank.. or in accounting anyway LOL