Hi large family mummies,
I wanted to ask how many children are you all planning on having .
I am planing on seven and then that's it! My fav number is seven, so I only have one more to go!
soul
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Hi large family mummies,
I wanted to ask how many children are you all planning on having .
I am planing on seven and then that's it! My fav number is seven, so I only have one more to go!
soul
This is my 7th. And then thats IT for me :) I did say that after the 4th though ;)
rayla72, omg father! you would concider more! whoo hoo, omg your amazing!
I definatley want six, well its too late now anyway, lol, but might have one more in about 7 years or so. Depends how much I have got into a caereer for myself. Dh said if we just keep having child after child we will never have this young time in our lives for just us! I see his point. And we are not that well off , so we need to know when enough is enough! But I love it all the same!
I'm thinking a dozen is a good number. I have two and want at least two or three more, but still have to talk DH around on that point *L*. He's ok with having a couple more in a few yrs time, but says any more than that and we won't have the money to extend our house untill we retire *L*... and fitting that many kids in a five bedroom house (mind you one of the bedrooms is the size of a large cupboard....but can work as nursery..) will be hard!
katkins oh my "Gawd" a dozen! wow wee you would never have a minute to yourself, not even for a quick relaxation minute! But heck if you want 12 of them all the power to you I say! And your shopping bill, wholy heck, myn is alrerady $300 per week with just five kids! But if you have the money then I say go for it, I would if I were with more money!lol
soul
I don't think we will manage to get to 12, I think we'll probably stop at around 6 knowing DH and u never know. My body's already showing signs of wear and tear...may not make it that far!
omg yeah the wear and tear is sooooooo happening with me! I already have almost a whole train track on my poor tummy from being so badly stretched with my fourth child, she was quite large! I gues go with the flow, how ever many you have is what is meant to be right!
Love and light,
soul
well i have 2 stepkids here (dh's) half the time and i have 2 with dh.
i'd like one more but he doesn't:(
he thinks we can't afford it and that he'll never have time to be alone in retirement:rolleyes: so he's getting the snip in a months time:crying:
Hi,
Well i tried for 2 yrs to get preggies with DD and 2yrs after DD and ive been married for 6 yrs and have never used contaception,because i have PCOS i dont get preggies right away.So i dont think i will ever go on contaception,i will just go with the flow and whatever god sends me i will happily accept:)
Ruru, that sounds like a great way to look at it. I wish we could look at it like that, but I have a history of falling almost at the drop of a hat. I have fallen 3 times when using contraception (all angel babies)with ex partners. Took 5months with Dh once we decided to not use anything (my body took a while to accept his swimmers) and then fell pg straight away after Kat's birth. Had one AF and then missed the next as was pg again. So Dh and I decided to wait a while now as Kat and Jess are so young and deserve to have our full attention for a little while at least. In a couple of yrs we'll try for another, and if I fall between now and then, well Dh has said we'll manage and he'll be happy....he just doesn't want us to try to make it happen just yet IYKWIM? I am on a diff type of pill to the one I fell pg on before.. We both want more. We are both in awe of just what little miracles babies/children are. Hard work, but miracles none the less. So innocent and perfect... I so can't wait to be pg again.....yet I don't want to miss a moment of my babies growing up either so I don't want the time to fly.... I'm full of contradictions atm *L*
Well I have just had no.6 and that is it!We just about lost nos.5 and 6 so we decided that this was it. I an RH Neg so every baby we have ,the percentage of losing a baby is much higher!
bellasmum, how were your labours hunnie,is it true they get quicker and easier? If you say no I am running for my life!
Sorry, Solu, my last one was the hardest (after the first). It was okay until the pushing stage and then I just didnt have the energy. Make sure you look after yourself REALLY well during your pg. I was unfit and still am ;(
I'm starting to get nervous about the pushing stage with this one now.
Good question! I always thought 2-3 but now that i'm a mum i'd like 4 at least...just gotta talk DH into it :D
Soul, It is hard to say because even though No.1 was my langest labour(as it is with first!) No.2 was induced so it was 4 hrs, No 3 induced 4 hrs , No. 4 spontaneous 48 hrs (prelabour) full labour 1 hr 15 mins, No. 5 induced 5 hrs and No 6 was 5.46mins.:
So as you can see all labours were pretty quick anyway except for No.4!
Induced labours were much harder for me though because they were so intense.
I hope that eases your mind hunnie. But congrats on having No.6!There aren't that many of us that decide on huge families these days!
Hi,
like i said in my other post i really dont mind.
but if i had the choice i would like 4, 2 boys and 2 girls,
my mum and granma and aunty all had 4 and they were 2 boys and 2 girls,never know i might carry on the tradition!!
I have had six babies and I have two foster boys. If I could have more I would!
I had tubal ligation after Ivy and Noah, which I will regret forever more. I would love one more.
Wow - you women are amazing! I always said I only ever wanted 2 and then after No 1 was born, I swore I would never have another. Then I got the guilts about him being an only child and decided to have No 2. Now that I have had No2 and I am thoroughly enjoying it and can't wait to be preggo with No 3 now! (I reckon I could go No 4 if I could talk DH into it, we are both one of four!)
I would love 3 but i know i am definatley pushing it, so i wont bother.
But 2 would be nice, as i dont want DS being an only child, and i am sure he would love a sibling.
Ohhh come on Fletch you haven't lived till you've driven a van, lol You could go for a 4WD. lol.
Just Had number 5 and had the Merena inserted so we will see if I getit removed to have another baby. I think I'm finished, I mean you have to stop somewhere.....right!!???? lol don't really know if we will or not but if we did I will definately stop at 6 although I said that a few times already now, lol.
Our 7th Heaven, oh that actually sounds great, seventh heaven! Hm maybe that is a good omen for you to have seven kiddies! What you think!
Fletch, come sweetie you would be the king of the road in a 4wd, no man and his dog would mess with you!
We do not even have a car, we get public transport everywhere for the time being! And we have no problem! If this was 40 years ago we might have alot to complain about!
Ahh today I am thinking one child would do me, but I guess it's to late for that right!
I would love to have like 6 or so, but DH won't be in it! I went out with this guy years ago who had 6, so with Joshua that made 7 and I LOVED IT! They play with each other, wear each other out and crack you up laughing. Sounded like a playground at home...lol.
DH says can't afford that many, but once you have things you recycle and reuse ;) My other concern though is I think I'm getting too old.... :( I said 35 was my cut off point so I'm not in a higher risk category and I'm 34 now and only having #2. What will be will be though.
has any one seen the TLC show regarding the dugger family (I think thats their name) who currently have 16 chidlren? Good freaking Golly!!! LOL. They pay for every thing with cash and if they dont have enough money they dont buy it or they buy it in pieces (like building their new home, etc). They drive a bus to hall every one around, and their shopping bill is in the thousands! lol.:
Looks like DW and I will try for 4th, and aside from that I think we should just be open to the possiblity of wanting or feeling led to have more.
Well, i have 3 boys, and this is going to be number 4 bub, so that is enough for me, and I have made arrangments with my obgyn to have my tubes tied at the caeser with this one. Both hubby and I agreed to it, and are happy with our decision, ass this is number 4 caeser, and the pregnancies are really rough on me in the last trimester.
We dont have a van, but have a 7 seater 96 Nissan Patrol, which is perfect :D
*bump*
I think I just want 1 more.
Hi ladies,DH would dearly love another little pricess,we have 4 boys and 1 daughter.I never thought I would have so many kiddies,but it just grows on you,I was an only child and always wanted a few kids. I would like one more if it`s meant to be, I have found out I have a Liver condition,so fingers crossed it might happend one day before I get too much older, I also feel the wear and tear on my body is catching up,lol. DH was one of 6 kids,he loves a big family,so lucky for me I don`t have to talk him into anything. Best to all with your life `s journey.:)
We have four and am in the process of deciding whether we want one more. I feel the age gap is too big between no.3 and no.4 so I think Scout will need a playmate to grow up with. We already have the 7 seater car so thats not a problem just gotta talk myself around. Hubby doesnt care he wants a rugby team, but that is never gonna happen.
we have 4 aswell, and I want another, DH hasnt said no but I am still in too minds, my reasoning is also the gap between DS2 and 3 I think he needs a playmate, and the car problem can be solved will have 9 mnths to save for a tarago.
We have 3 winkies and we are going to TTC #4 in March/April 09 I have said thats it after 4 so I hope I will feel happy about it after my 4th.... I have said it was it after my 3rd but I dont feel DONE yet...
does anyone else feel this way and do you EVER feel done?
My mother ( who had 7 ) has always told me that you know when you are DONE I just hope this is true or I might never feel that way... Mind you I dont think BHL would be happy about have anymore as he was happy and DONE after 2.... LOL
Well not long ago we had our DD. So now 1 of each... everyone keeps saying we should stop now we have the perfect pair. But personally i'd like another 1 of each but financially not sure if it would happen. We brought a house only 3 bedrooms so maybe once DD is a bit older we may consider TTC once again... If money wasnt a problem i'd love 6... the more the better... i love kids and they make your life so much better... (ok there can be bad days) .
At the end of the day you live for your kids.
I always said I wanted 4 or 6 kids...I have 4 now and Im really wanting another one. I dont think I could have 6...but in saying that you never know what will happen in the future.
I always said 4....DH said 6....#3 is on its way and i think it will depend on bubs gender if we go for another.
If its a boy #4 will hopefully happen....if its a girl then i think this will be our last. I cant set myself up yet another girl :(
Aww Kim... 4 girls aint so bad ;)
Im sure its not Tanya....i just dunno how id cope!!
LOL... you would be fantastic!! :D
We have 2 girls. DH and I don't feel complete yet so number 3 is on the cards. It is just a matter of when. DD2 is only 8months old and I am just getting used to having 2 kids. As yet I have not come out of the sleepless haze that I have been living in since Loren was born.
We are thinking ttc sooner rather than later for a number of reasons. 1. I am the last of my friends and family to have kids so I don't want my youngest being too little interact with the other kids, 2. I am not a spring chicken. 3. we are in baby mode and have all the stuf, no need to put it all away if another is comming. 4 I don't want a newborn and have to the school run with DD1 (she starts in 2011) In other words trying to get a kid to school would do my head in if I did not have enough sleep the night before.
Reasons not to ttc soon. 1 Can I really handle 3 little ones at home for a year or so.2. Would love to give bfing a good shot and think if the girls are older I would have more time with a nb. 3 I need to get into shape before putting on any more weight
Anyone got any thoughts on age gaps?
Hi there, my husband and i have 5 kids and have just started talking about having another one, my oldest dd is 7, followed by ds who is 5,then there is two more dd age 3 and 21 months and finally by beautiful baby boy who is almost 5 months, it is a bit chaotic at times and i will admit i have raised my voice acouple of times and even let a grownup word slip once or twice, but i would not have it any other way, i love them and would have heaps more if we could, we only have a 7 seater van and if we have no. 6 then we need to buy a bigger car, i dont see that as being an issue really except that they cost so much! I dont have that "complete" feeling and i dont know if i ever will, it may not go away even after no.6, and i dont see my husband agreeing to 7, cause then we would have to get a bus, but even that does not bother me, i love being pregnant, i love giving birth and i love having a big family and holding my baby in my arms, i love it when they hug you and say i love you and i even love the puppy dog eyes after they did something wrong.
I think big familys are great and they are making a comeback. So hopefully in a few months we will ttc (which i also love)(lol) and can continue our big family.
That all being said, some family members dont agree with dh and i and said we should have stopped at 2, other family members comment on our finances and others just say "i think you have enough".
All in all i would give my life for the 5 i have and welcome any more that may come our way. Thanks for letting me share......Lisa
I have always wanted to have 4 the least and 6 the most kids i only have one at the moment and am already dying to have another one but finally at the moment we cant afford it if we had the money i would have another one in a heart beat, i have always wanted a big family im one of 7 and Dh is one of 4 and i love children so hopefully i at least get my four if i cant have 6. I find people look down apone u if u have more then 2 kids these days like your only in for the money and like your a bum...