TTC & Gender Swaying #3

This thread is for members who wish to discuss methods such as diet, intercourse timing and altering the vaginal environment in order to TTC a baby of a specific gender.
There is an article on the Shettles Method here if you want to find out more about intercourse timing and positions to maximise your chances of concieving a specific gender. In order to use the Shettles method you will need to have an understanding of charting your cycle. You can find an article about charting here or discuss it with others in our Charting Your Cycle Forum.
If you're experiencing feelings of gender dissappointment there is a discussion about this topic here and an article about it here
The previous thread can be found here.
Good Luck!!!

Hi everyone,

We we will be TTC in Sept and I would really love to try for a girl. (well if it doesn't happen and we have a boy again, then so be it, but would still like to try for a girl.) Anyway, I read you can take calcium and magnesium, now what I was wondering how many do you take of each??

Jillian, I noticed you took them, maybe you could help???

TIA :)

Just a question about the Cranberry Tablets can't remember who it was maybe ~Shoegal~, were you taking them or was DH taking them?

Kaz I'd also be interested in the answer to that question, maybe take what it says on the side of the bottle, not quite sure.

DH has read the food to eat and food to avoid and he's going to give it a try, also can someone refresh my memory about pH levels for a girl, for both DH and myself. Also does DH take the calcium and magnesium supplements?

hugs xoxo

Hi girls. I have 2 girls and a boy and thought for sure last girl would be a boy, because it was right on O or just after, so was shocked when at 20 week scan showed a little girl, we started TTC actively Sept last year and thought I may try for a little girl again, since then 2 MC and now don't care less what we get as long as we get a bubby and its healthy. I was going with DTD well before O and was chasing a girl because I have more enjoyable less sickie prg. Good luck to you all, hope you get your pink or blue bubby that you are chasing.

Hi everyone,

My husband and I will be ttc in the next few months hopefully, that is once my body cycles normally again after a miscarriage.

I do know that there are no guarantees as to what sex you'll end up with but we were trying for a boy (and we had one) the last time using both position (doggy) and abstinence leading up to ovulation time and I reduced my dairy intake significantly including no chocolate! Our two girls were conceived in the missionary position. It all sounds very personal I know, talking about positions etc but it worked for us.

I also looked at chinese lunar calendar predictions and I've found them to be fairly accurate amongst friends and family, myself included.

I didn't know about any methods of gender prediction prior to our last attempt so it is all fairly new to me but I will be looking further into it in the coming months so we have a better chance for that longed for baby boy. That said, I just want a healthy baby as an outcome... besides I have two girls already born in opposite seasons so we're set for clothes;).

i just thought that I would pop my head back into this thread and say that DH and I were trying for a boy this time and we got one, we DTD doggy style, i O'd before DH and we only had unprotected sex the day of O. It holds up to the theory of boy spermies,but I dont know if it was really that or just good luck.

That's great Ali that you are getting your lovely boy. Did you just find out today? It sounds like the timing method may of worked for you. Congratulations

Congratulations Ali! Good luck with your bundle in blue when he arrives.

I believe that when we conceived our boy it was on ovulation day too as I'm spot on with 28 day cycle. Perhaps a combination of ovulation date and position does produce boys??? I'll be giving it a go again in a few months time hopefully.

Congratulatoins Ali!!! wow how exciting for you both!!!!

We are ttc a girl starting next month soooo exciting!

Well DH and I have started trying for our pink bundle, we are doing the timing, I'm doing the diet with calcium and magnesium supplents and we are both taking cranberry tablets for more acidic pH, so hopefully we'll be pg soon.

It's just so scary, lol.

hugs xoxo

How is everyone going???

Still trying here, we're up to our 3rd month trying, still doing the diet and taking the calcium and magnisum tablets and DH is on the cranberry tablets.

How are things going with you Shoegal?

hugs xoxo

Hi amanda! We are nearing the end of our first month...but i dont think we were successful, just a feeling ykwim? Sooo just waiting for Af to show on sunday and then we will start again LOL The diet is hard, so I'm going to not go on it strict this month...but still taking supplements ect.

Good Luck this month...i see you arent too far away from O!

Yay i can finally say now we are TTC for a pink one! Though my last cycle was only 24 days (normally around 28 days), we DTD last night, im on day 11 and i felt what i thought was O pains this morning but no EW.. so who knows. I might go do another OPT...

Good Luck Kel!

Shoegal, have you tested yet?

Kel yay on starting to try for your little girl.

I've got my fingers crossed for all of us.

hugs xoxo

Hey everyone i was brousing around and decided to post i have tried the shettles method and worked for me when trying for a girl unfortuntely i m/c on june 07. we are trying the method again though this time its a little harder cause my af been out of wack since my m/c and its harder to calculate o my last af was oct 3 and was expecting to get it again on the 31st but got it on the 27th. i am going to start using opk to help me determine when to stop dtd. good luck to everyone. I do hope to at least concieve this month it was when i was due withthe baby i m/c.

Lanena.. do you remember what day you stopped at with your first pregnancy. Sorry to hear it didnt go well. My fingers are crossed for you this time round!

Thanks Amanda.. ill be praying for all of us! What method are you using?

Thanks Shoegal! Have you tested yet?

Not sure what our method is called, but im going by a book my sister lent me called "Choose the sex of your baby - The Natural Way" by Hazel Chesterman-Phillips. She used it to get a girl and it worked after having 2 boys! We're just doing what my sister did, the undies thing to adjust sperm count and the timing (dtd every second day after AF until well im thinking either 2-3 days before O). My only problem is like Lanena my cycle has been all over the shop lately. Last month it was only 24 days, previously its usually between 27-30 days. So am using OPK and CM to know when to stop.. its all so tricky!!

Hey Kellxx,
i was using shettles method and it said to stop dtd two days before o'ing and i did and we dtd missionary position sorry for tmi i was able to predicte my o day before because it was like clock work every 28 days for five days but after my m/c my af has been crazy so now i am going to use opk to see if it helps

Kel I'm doing the diet (very loosely) taking magnesium and calcium tablets and this month we stopped DTD yesterday which is 3 days before I O. DH is taking cranberry tablets to make his sperm more acidic and has cut coffee out.

Lanena I hope that the OPK packs help, sorry to hear about your loss in June.

*EDIT* We've worked up to 3days before O, from 4 days for about two cycles and this is our second month on 3 days before and if we're not pg this cycle then next month with be two days before O, I wouldn't go any closer then two days tho.

hugs xoxo

Hi i just found this thread i have been looking for it for months:redface:
We were trying for a girl as we have two boys already. I was told by a girlfriend that you DTD up to 12 days after you last period for a 28 day cycle. We did it last on day 11. We did missionary style andtold DH to nearly pull out lol. I did not think that i would fall pregnant as it was our first month and we DTD 4 days before ovulation. I took a test on the day flo was due and i was pregnant!
Now i am not sure what to think. I don't want to get my hopes up so i am just thinking its another boy. Althought this pregnancy is very different feel sick all day everyday and very tired.
Has this method worked for anyone else?
Am i being silly for just thinking its another boy?
I am happy with either sex as long as the baby is happy.

Thanks sorry its long
Nikki

Amanda wow my two sons names are Cody and Lachlan (spelt diff) too!

Ps sorry i just realised i should not of posted in here sorry if i offend anyone

Nikki your more then welcome to post in here, I know that your most probably worried about another boy as I know when I get pg this time I will be the same. Are you going to find out the sex at your 18-20 week scan? I know that I will so it wil give me a chance to come to terms with it, if it's a boy. Also you can join the gender disappointment group if you feel like it.

hugs xoxo

Thanks yes i have to find out the sex of the baby. I don't think that i will be dissapointed if its a boy i just don't want to keep thinking that it could be a girl cause then i might be dissapointed. If i keep thinking that its a boy then i wont be dissapointed if its a boy as that is what i thought. Hope that makes sense.

Thanks for your help

Nikki

Nikki.. congratulations on your pregnancy!!! Ill be praying its a girl for you! I think that if its a boy then it was meant to be a boy all along. Because youve done what has been said and written would get a girl. I too would love a little girl. So i think if i get a boy next time round, part of me will be a little disappointed but most of me will be happy to have another beautiful baby. You are absolutely welcome to post in here. Im happy to hear that you fell pregnant and would love to hear if it all worked out for you. Your method worked for my sister, after 2 boys she got a girl.

Amanda.. is your cycle 28 days every time? Im only going on a guess with mine. Being last month was 24 days. I havent had any ew CM yet and OPK is still saying negative, so im thinking tonight might be our last shot before stopping and then just hoping O happens after another 2 days on or around day 14 or 15 (im on day 12 now).

Thank you guys so much you make me feel so much better cause i felt really bad posting here. silly i know
I hope that you all get BFP soon and i will pop in and say hi often. I will let you know if its a boy or a girl when i find out. I hope that you all get what you wish for too. Praying for all of you.

Nikki:)

Kel my last cycle was 28 days and I O'd on CD16, cycle before that I had a 26 day cycle with O on CD18, cycle before that one was 28 days and I O'd on CD18 and the one before that was 27days with O on CD18. But with the three that I O'd on CD 18 I was b/fing more and now that I'm weaning I've gone down to the CD16 as O, so hopefully it will stay that way. HTH.

hugs xoxo

Lanena.. sorry to hear about your miscarriage, i hope your cycles start to be normal soon! Good Luck!

Opps i need to change my ticker, I'm actually on Cd5! Sorry girls!
I am so dry downt here from taking my supplements! Has everyone found that does it to them too? arghh!

Amanda, good luck this month!! I started taking b6 to lengthen my LP,it was 11 days last month and i would like it a little longer it's usually 13 days. since stoped breastfedding my cycles have been a little bit haywire.

Kell how are you going??

Amanda.. ahh well thats good your cycle is pretty regular. Its just hard pin pointing the day O will come hey when you need to have a cut off! Have you stopped for this month now?

We've stopped for this month now too. Im on Cd13 today and we dtd last night. So im hoping i O tomorrow or the next day (Cd14 or 15).

Shoegal.. what method are you using?

Ive had the flu a bit the past week. Im hoping that doesnt get in the way of anything!

Kel yep we last DTD on Monday which was CD13, I'm now on CD15 and hoping to O tomorrow, tho I had some pains last night, ahh well will have to wait and see.

Shoegal yep I'm finding I'm drier up until about 2-3 days before I O.

hugs xoxo

Amanda.. any luck with and O signs?

Shoegal.. ive found i am dryer up until yesterday but im not even taking anything.

I got some ew cm this morning woohooo! So that makes it 2 days since dtd! Will do a OPK next time i wee so see what comes up!

I mucked around with FF and it says I O'd yesterday so we last DTD on Monday so two days between so hopefully I caught the eggie.

Kel yay on getting EWCM and having two days in between as well, fingers crossed you caught the eggie as well.

hugs xoxo

Oh yay Amanda! Heres :pray: for all of us! Now the annoying waiting!

Hi,

I am new on here and have been "lurking" for a little while, but i am having trouble working out what the codes mean? Is there a list somewhere i can figure it out.?

We are going to "try" for a Boy.. if it works yeah if not :)

My Cycle is all over the place so it ranges between 24 to 34 days. I am not sure how to chart it either...

I have been reading a bit about douching with Baking Soda? Is this safe ?

Is Baking Soda the same as Bicarb Soda? Is there any other tips i can get from your fin ladies to help me closer to the boy?

Sorry for all the questions. I am just a bit confused and hoping to get some advice..

Thank you

Just thought id pop in and see how everyones going.

Amanda.. have you tested yet?
Im going to hold off until Thursday when AF is due. If she aint here by Friday, i may test then. Not getting any hopes up though.

Miklaoz.. Welcome! Best of luck with trying for your boy! I dont know myself how safe douching is. But yes Baking Soda and Bicarb Soda are the same thing. I think some tips for a boy are the man should wear boxer shorts and loose trousers. Find out when ovulation is. Dont DTD for 1 week prior. DTD when you ovulate just once.. with the woman orgasiming before the man if possible. Also the man can have cold showers (i bet he'll like that!) or hold a cold washer to his genitals.

Kel I tested yesterday and it was a :bfn:, my temp was 36.2 and then this morning my temp shot up to 36.8. So if AF hasn't turned up tomorrow when it should then I will test again.

How is everyone else going?

hugs xoxo

Hi, everyone just checking how is everyone doing i havent posted here for a while i have beenal over the place. Well a update me and dh have been trying for a girl since our last m/c was a girl and we have a boy already anyway i got a ovulation calender from webmd and it help u track what days to bed and stop for certain gender so anyway it gave me accurate date for a/f then it said i should be o'ing on the 7th but i bought a opk just in case but funny enough the opk showed positive exactly when my calender said i would be o'ing. The calendar also said implantation should occur on the 12th but i am a nervous reck i have been to the bathrom a few times to see if any implantation spotting i know sometimes it could happen later than expected but i am being very hopeful it would hapen this month being that tomorrow would be my due date for the little girl i m/c. Anyway sorry for the long post but i had a quick question has anyone experienced a stringy discharge right around the day they suppose to have implantation. i went to one of my few runs to the bathroom and noticed a long stringy discharge sorry for the tmi but just had to ask. Anyway sorry again for the long post

Lanena.. oh dont you love it when your body works properly! hehe. I was lucky this month too that my cut off of 2 days was exactly 2 days before i ovulated (for my girl).. was perfect.

Amanda.. any signs of AF?

Well AF is due for me today. No signs of it yet, though my temperature is still quite high, hasnt dipped at all yet. Finding also im quite (TMI) gassy! With Jesse i cant remember being gassy but only symptom i had the whole pregnancy was a bit of constipation. Not sure about that department as yet, havent needed to go. THough the only thing thats thrown me off the sent so far is i had a migrain on Tuesday (i lose my vision, go numb etc with my migrains). My migrains i get usually once a month and have seemed to be hormonal. With Jesse, didnt get one migrain in 9 months. So that kinda got me thinking i mustnt be this month. Oh its so annoying. I dont want to test incase i see a neg though.. ill see what happens before tomorrow morning.. if not then ill us the FMU and give one a go.

Kel hope you get a :bfp: tomorrow.

Well I got a faint pos on Tues, but neg yesterday and this morning and then AF turned up around ten this morning, so I think that this one was just not sticky enough, maybe next month.

hugs xoxo

Oh Amanda, im sorry to hear it didnt work out this month. Strange about the :bfp: Were they all the same brand? Im kinda getting too scared to test.. will see.