TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

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Hello everyone

Thanks Canary we are also hoping for a speedy recovery for my dad. He starts his first lot of treatment on Tuesday so i think that is why i am more upset about everything at the moment. This whole cancer thing has happened so quickly. It was discover 3 weeks prior to my wedding in August last year and we had hoped the operation took it all but it hasn't and now it is growing at nearly double in the last 3 months so keeping fingers crossed that as he says this gets the little b@@@@@ds. Hope i haven't offended anyone.
Wow so many of us have AF at the moment our cycles are so similiar lets hope for lots of BFP this cycle.

Hug:hugs: and :bluedust: for you all
Trac

Just sending Baby Dust for the new thread... will be back to post as soon as I have a few hours to read through them all first.

:stickyvibesboy: :bluedust: :stickyvibesgirl: :bluedust: :stickyvibesboy: :bluedust: :stickyvibesgirl:

sorry i was a wet blanket about the gender swaying thing , i do under stand what you are saying, life is so hard for me now as i am now infertile no af for nearly 5 months and no garntee that we will ever be able to have children , after we have the opp for my ashermans , hoping they can fix it , or learning to except no more babies .

Well still no AF so I don't know what's going on there. Just that one day of light spotting at CD 27. A first for me.
Hopefully I can make it to the doctors this week and get the results of my blood test.

So damn hot, seriously considering moving somewhere cooler or installing the mother of all air conditioning systems.

Trac wishing you and your family all the very best. I hope things go as best they can. :grouphug:

Lots of :stickyvibesgirl: to all those BFP's nice to see so many lately.

Hiya :hello: to everyone else I hope your weekends were good!!

..Laura

Bettyboop - i just wanted to send you a big hug. You don't have to apologise. I can not even begin to understand how frustrating and upsetting your situation must be. If you can't vent here, than where can you vent? So please no apologies and you are certainly not a wet blanket. I hope you get some good news soon. When are you having the operation? I will be keeping you in my thoughts are this must be a difficult time for you.

Would love to say hi to everyone else but have to get back - just wanted to say hi to Betty.

Tina- sorry that AF is visiting. Big hug to you as well.

well, im adjusting to the fact that i will not be having a november baby .... xmas baby, here i come! :pray:

trac: all the best for your dad
betty: praying for you to have the blessing of a little one again soon...
laura: fingers xed for no AF!
katiegirl: thanks for your kind words, hope your having a nice weekend away..

hello to everyone else :)

:hello: Hi all= just a quickie to say 'fingers crossed' to Laura, sounds hopeful hun! And big :grouphug: to all, especially BettyB and trac xx

I've got a gorgeous cheesecake on the go (with raspberries) and added special :bluedust: for you all- hopefully some lovely Xmas prezzies are being created this month! Ho Ho Ho!

Gotta go- a stack of exam papers beckons (yuk)

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Nicki

Ohhhhh seriously,....... I have absolutely no chance of catching up. SO i ll just start from here.......


HUGS to everyone and congrats to all and sorry to others....

BUT most importantly HUGS. to everyone :grouphug:

At work at the moment.... flat out.... but kept feeling guilty that I hadnt responded..... then logged on and started reading and thought.... I just dont have enough time to read them all.......

SO please dont be insulted.... I just cant catch up.

Breaking news is that i was talking to DH while 'o' so BD did happen...... SO now I am officially in the 2ww againnnnnnnnn.

so other than that, i m just going to pretend that I m up to date with you all and go from here


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Tina_K and bettyboop: sending cyberhug

plc1805: I don't think your tests caused it, but your body can take a few months to readjust after mc.

Trac73: I'll keep your dad in my prayers.

Hello Everyone

Thanks to everyone for their well wishes. It is nice to know that you all care. I will be honest this is a really hard thing to deal with knowing that dad is not well and that this radiation will only slow it down as they will never get the cancer fully, as it has already seeped into other areas but are now waiting to find out where as it is only small at the moment.................but it could be a miracle :pray: and it could completely get the cancer and it will go :crossfingers:
I am with you tina_k let us all hope for our own special Xmas Present of the dreams that we have all been waiting for. Now i really want a December baby :pray:
Betty i am sending you an extra big :hugs: loom after yourself and pamper you for a change as you sound like you really could do with it. I am sending you a cyber facial...................

Well off to clean my house :grouphug: to
everyone

Trac

Bettyboop, you're fine sweetie, big hug :hug: I'm sorry if I came off too harsh, I have just lost my GF and then my GF's partner lost her son to cancer 18 hours later so I probably reacted too sensitively to your remarks. I am in a different situation to you, I am not infertile but have been strongly advised by my nephrologist to not have any more than 2 kids as I only have one kidney left and it's not behaving as well as we'd like. So I am trying the gender swaying thing bc I would really love a daughter and I probably only have one shot. I am so sorry you are having such a struggle, got my fingers crossed for you that things will get better :crossfingers:

Trac73 - Big hug for you too hun :hug:. Dont lose hope, cancer is a strange thing and miracles do happen :pray:

Big group hug for all of us, it sounds like we all need it :grouphug:

Let's bring on some Christmas babies!
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Just thought I would pop in and say g'day.

Not having a good day, just really nervous (shaking hands, etc) and paranoid. Going to loo a million times a day just to check (TMI, I know). Sad too, because I am trying not to get my hopes up but I just want it all to work out OK. I read all these things about people having sore boobs, morning sickness, etc, etc and I don't have anything again this time. Granted, with DS sore boobs didn't hit until the 6 week mark and m/s didnt' hit until 10 weeks, but I guess if I keep telling myself that things aren't right, then I won't get too disappointed.

So girls, tomorrow is another day - it can only get better, right??

Hugs to you all...

Hi Everyone - sounds like everyone could do with some cheering up. :grouphug:
The TTC journey is so difficult for us all, and then when we do get the BFP all new worries and concerns start. It seems neverending.

Brockstar - I know how you are feeling. I just can't shake the irrational feeling that something will go wrong. I really want to believe all will be good, and just as I am feeling okay I then start to worry all over again. I will get the BT results tomorrow, so even though they should offer some comfort, I now have it in my head that maybe something has happened since the test was taken on Friday. When will i relax? The thing I am most nervous about is once again going to a scan to be told that it is over. So - I get what you are going through. Big hugs - we can support each other.

Trac - I hope you are okay. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

I am starving, must go eat. Have a good night everyone.

Hi Katiegirl
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Fingers crossed that the BT has the results that you need.
I haven't had a BT yet, I guess we will just wait until we do another PT this weekend and go from there.... I just hate being in limbo.
I'm off to bed now, sweet dreams everyone!

Well well well....... everyone seems to be so down and I have no idea why.

The absolute worst thing we could possibly do, not only for our mental health but also our physcial health, is to focus on the negative in any situation.

I know that might sound blanket but I can absolute guarantee you all something. When you focus on the negative you will find yourself spiraling down in it. When you find yourself spiraling downward move forward one step at a time.... one day at a time.

If you focus in the negative in people or the ugliness of some people it will feel like you are surrounded by them.

Let the crap pass you by...... Focus on the positive in any situation.

No matter what you face or have faced or what you think you might face..... look for the good... search for the good and treasure it when you find it.

I m no different than anyone else out in here..... I ve had the losses you ve had.... I ve had things happen in my life that no one should have to deal with and I have the good days and the bad days... I m just saying... stay positive and step forward..... one day at a time.

Speaking of the positive.... We ve had I think 5 BFP s in the last month or so. We have many of us on 2WW (myself included) Yes we ve had AF show her ugly face BUT..... it means your on your way to a 2WW...... And the biggest positive...... our lives ... we are surrounded by people who love and care about us and regardless of the results of TCC we have those around us now who we love and care about.

So even though I m on my "huge butt" health kick... I m going to risk it by breaking out some cyber cake (no calories)..... mud cake with fresh chocolate icing dripping down the sides..... I think this time I ll serve it up just a tad warm still with a hint of fresh cream :rolleyes:

Focus on what is good in your life..... and the tougher it gets the more you hold onto the positive. :grouphug:

and just for extra focus..... :stickyvibesgirl: :bluedust: :stickyvibesboy: :bluedust: :stickyvibesgirl:

Angel, thank you for your positive post. You can always find the right words to say and I'm going to apply your idea of 'Let the crap pass you by' That is an excellent piece of advice and applies very well to a situation I was in at work today (which I wont bore you with). I see that you are in the 2ww now... I'm actually quite glad that I dont have to go through another one of those just yet. I will really have to find a way of keeping clam through the next one!:lol:

So, to continue on Angels positive vibe..It's easter soon everybody! I just love this time of year and it's got nothing to do with chocolate! In England, easter is the time of year that the crap weather goes away and the light lasts for longer in the evenings. The daffodils are out already and it won't be long before the tulips pop through (and they are my fave flower). Added to that is 4 days off work and wahey!!... DH and I are going away for a couple of nights. Those of you who remember that I am on CD 3 will have done the maths and realised what we will be up to....;)!!:bd:

Just a few quick messages,
Katie, Nickster, Brockstar, Stattysky....Thinking of you and your precious cargo.:stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:

Jodie, sorry to hear about your kidney. I hope all goes well with it during your next pregnancy.

Betty:hugs: I hope you are OK.

Trac, I hope that your Dads treatment is going OK.

Hi everyone else, I hope that you're all OK. GL to the 2ww ers. Who's next to POAS? Have some:bluedust:

I'm off to see whether I can change my ticker. It still thinks I am on CD37!

Yum - Angel that cake sounds lovely..... i just went for my first walk in weeks, good thing it's only a cyber cake and has no calories. I'm joining the weight loss kick, I lost 20kg last year (put on one or two) and would love to lose another 20 this year.
Jodie - i hope your kidney behaves itself during your next pg. my sister has polycystic kidneys and managed five perfectly healthy pg's. (yes, my family has large numbers of kids).
to katie, nickster, starrysky and brockstar all the best::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
must ring today and see when my car will be ready, was told last week insurance company authorised for it to be fixed, hopefully i can get it back by easter, i really don't like our spare car, although we're lucky to have it at the moment.
must go now and kick my kids out of bed so they can go to school

Hi Everyone,

Well once again i have been very quite, we moved house and well to tell you the truth, i was one of the many who have been down in the dumps. But Angel Babies is right, we need to think of the positives and get happy.
So today im happy, because after being broke for so long with moving, im getting paid today and only half of it is going on bills, the rest is going on some things for me and the boys and DH and the house !! Today i will have more than $5 to my name !!! Also today we start BD, every second day for a week and a half. I have to admit that im sort of not in the frame of mind, and i have been listening to some people that have been telling me that im mad for wanting another one now that Lawson is going into prep next year. But i so dearly want another child and i dont think im mad. I know that DH would be very happy to just have our two boys, but i feel that there is another child out there for us waiting to be born. DH is funny, he says that but then as soon as someone puts a baby in his arms, he goes all mushy and says "i want one"

Well im off to get the boys ready for the day.

hugs to everyone
treelo

morning ladies

i too have been pretty down, just have had this gut feeling that it would be a BFN for me this month and this morning i POAS and confirmed it

anyway just went for a nice walk and realised that i need to take that advice and be more positive- this was only the first real cycle since my first AF after m/c, i am young and healthy and have time on my side, i have a wonderful DH who is my best friend and we are blessed with a great life. yes there is still a little hole in me that is aching to have a baby to fill it up but it is going to happen, just have to be patient. keep trying and don't give up but stop obsessing!

ok that's what i'm going to keep telling myself...

on the bright side as well am going away this weekend with friends so that is something to look forward to :D :dance:

a big hello and big :grouphug: for all of us

xo

Hi Everyone, especially all those who are feeling down, and have AF or are in 2WW.

thank you Angel for your positive words, i really needed them, and am trying to stop myself from sinking into that pit!

Canary, well, you and i are on the same track here, i am also at CD3, however, unlike you (im so jealous that your going away) i have mum and dad visiting over easter which is prime BD time, and our place is very small with ver thin walls! dont know what to do!!! i also had a situation yesterday with my pg SIL that made me get really angry, but imm trying to calm myself down and not get hung up on it..
PBstar - sorry about AF,
treelo, congrats on the move, good luck with BDing :)

HI Everyone

Angel - Thanks for your positive words they really do help.........i will be trying to let the crap pass me by and focus on something positive from the situation. For example my dad might be having treatment but he is alive. And even though i feel like i have been TTC forever and it is not happening at least i am having fun BDing and i am with my DH my best best freiend and true love.

pbstar - Sorry to hear that you AF has arrived, i know it is disappointing but just think the sooner it finishes the sooner you can get TTCign again.

Canary - Enjoy your couple of nights away with DH..It is always nice to have time alone without any worries of house, cooking etc and happy BDing..

Brockstar, Katiegirl, Nickstar and All the other BFP ladies - I am thinking of you all during this time of excitement, nervousness and eagerness of getting to 12 weeks. :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:

Jodsan - Take care of yourself and i will be keeping my fingers :crossfingers: crossed for you dreams to come true

To everyone TTC, BFP, AF or 2WW i am thinking of you all and sending lots of :crossfingers::grouphug: your way

hi girls

thanks for your kind words

AF has not yet arrived- due Thursday but i just got a BFN this morning so i am pretty sure it's on the way- wish it would hurry up though so I can get it over with!

Hi all. The GP called and my HCG from Friday is 417 - so she is happy with that. She offered for me to come in again to get another BT done but I have decided that I need to start accepting the good news each time I receive it instead of looking for something else to go wrong. She said I can call at any time to arrange for another BT if I need to. So for now I am going to work on being positive and thinking happy thoughts. She also told me that a friend of hers was praising my Ob Mark Umstad, so happy to hear that.

I feel good about my GP and Ob choice - as last time I never really liked the GP I had. So all looking good.

Trac - glad to see you finding the positives in your life. I will take inspiration from you.

To everyone else TTCing, TWW, AF etc, good luck and let's all stay strong together.

PS. Still too much of a scaredy cat to post in the PAML thread...will wait until afer the Ob appointment at 7 weeks.

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PS. Still too much of a scaredy cat to post in the PAML thread...will wait
until afer the Ob appointment at 7 weeks

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:) Me too. From last Friday to this coming Friday is just waiting agony!!! Will test again then and if it is still :bfp: then I will go and get BT and hope that the hcg levels are respectable. At least then it would be a positive. Last pregnancy I didn't even think to ask GP about hcg results - in fact, there is a hell of a lot I have learnt in here since February!

I guess I am still a little confused about due dates as well. I am thinking that if I o'd on 22/2 (as per OB's observations), I just add 38 weeks instead of 40? And in doing that, I'm looking at early November, if all goes well :pray:

Katiegirl - good for you! Congrats to you. A small step forward :dance:

Pbstar, Trac73, Jodsan - :group hug:

Angel Babies - you are an incredible woman! You know what to say at just the right moment. :thumbsup:

TinaK - how about getting your parents drunk? Let 'em pass out and then they won't hear anything through the paper thin walls...:cool: (Did I really write that??) If it's time to BD, then it's time to BD!!

Treelo - hope you are well on your way to being settled in your new house.

If I've missed anyone, I am truely sorry!

i have been away on my own for a couple of days and brought a new car, photo in my photos, amazing how retail therpy can take your mind off thing for today anyway, dont know what my body is doing as my temp has gone way up :doh: dont know.

betty boop - as always big :hug:!
katiegirl and brockstar - :pray: that everything goes your way, prayer and positivity help!!! brockstar - never occurred to me either re hcg tests, I'm sure to be asking about them next time. I understand re PAML - very scary!
pbstar - :hug:
trac - way to be positive, ur doin it well!
tina - your situation reminded me of back in Jan when it was o-time DH and I were down the beach with my family, there are only 2 rooms and I was sharing my room with my bro and sil as well as my DH. NO WAY we could BD so we went down to the beach in the late evening and DTD in some secluded area. :D is there anywhere you could escape to? chin up, hun!
treelo - :hug: ul get there
mollycat - wow! 20 kilos - that's sensational - as well as inspirational!! well done!!
canary - ;) keep that positivity going hun - nothing like looking forward to some good BDing to help it along !!
tempus - thx hun for ur post!! hope ur ok.
jodsan - big hugs to u hun
angelbabies - bday buddy - ur my idol where inspirational talk goes - hope ur TWW marches right up to a BFP and taps it on the shoulder :)

me - ob said that AF 2 weeks post lap is normal but I still need to wait til post-op check-up in mid-april before we can TTC - precautionary measure, frustrating but necessary ......staying positive that nothing else is gonna get in my way in the meantime :rolleyes:

anyone I might have missed - apologies and huge hugs

Well I ve just done my first week. I know I still have the occasional unhealthy hit (dinners) but the remainder of the day I m a good girl. Today was my official weigh in and I ve lost a whole .8kg....... thats point 8 NOT 8 .....LOL

I know I half thought ......ohhh when you watch the show they loose so much... but reality apparently is that when its not done as full on as they do it on biggest looser..... 1kg a week is considered great... sooo with my .8.... that must mean that I m NEARLY great...... :lol:

PLC1805 ... Birthday Buddy..... If i get a BFP this time round I think I will be shocked. DH and I did the :dance: and then proceeded to argue for the remaining "o". I just cant win with him at the moment :doh: Maybe it will be a good thing (sorry finding the positive again)..... If I got a BFP this cycle then I would be having a Saggi baby..... DH is Saggi..... DS is a Saggi... OMG do they clash.... I can just imagine in 14 years time a teenage girl (dont need to imagine a boy as I already see it with DS).... I can picture AF visiting her and her and DH clashing like crazy..... Maybe I could hire a motel room every month and let them duke it out.:rolleyes: Obviously I would be thrilled with a BFP... I m just know what its like with a teenage Saggi and my DH...... I suppose I will be well prepared.

Almost blushing here with all of those lovely comments from everyone... Thank You.

Huge Hugs to all


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So here I am at home with my 11 year old, who's been vomiting since yesterday. Just can't hold any solids down. If he's still doing this tomorrow, off to the doctor he goes.
But on the other hand, I think AF will be finished today or tomorrow. Then back on the roller coaster. This has been my fourth day of clomid, too, for the challenge test. So we'll see...

Trac73: keeping fingers crossed for your dad

Brockstar: sending encouragement vibes

Angel Babies: thanks for your words of encouragement

Canary: you have daffies? I'd be grateful for a little crocus LOL! Here in Pennsylvania we still have some snow left over (like in the mall parking lot where the snowplows just dumped it). But some of the nights are still below freezing...*sigh*

treelo: don't you love how many nay-sayers there are out there? The few people who know we're trying again tend to react like "uhm...okay"--not quite trying to talk me out of it, but they're clearly think I'm nuts

pbstar: sorry about the BFN

Katiegirl: so happy to hear your good news. Keep us posted!

bettyboop: fingers crossed

bettyboop...I am keeping you in my thoughts! I hope you'll get good news soon.

As for me...I finally had a normal AF after almost 4 months of nothing...this weekend is fertile time for us so we are going out of town to relax and get busy BDing...I guess next week will be the first 2WW for me since joining the forum...I am very excited at the thought of a 2WW LOL!

hi to all- just a quick one as i have to run and do my ironing....

AF arrived last night and she is here for a big emotional and physical clean out so i am feeling very relaxed and positive today

congrats angel babies for completing week one of operation huge butt, .8 is a great start so keep it up!

to everyone else big :hug: hope you are all doing ok today

Angel Babies - well done on your loss .8 is great - my dietician always said the slower you lose weight the more chance you have of keeping it off. You're right on biggest loser, it's all they do all week so of course they will have huge weight losses, but we still have a life between exercising and eating right. I still splurge on the wrong food, but i know that i don't eat as much of it as i used to. Amazed at how much more energy i have, i started walking again yesterday, went again this morning, came back and cleaned my bathroom, washed and vacuum floors, hung washing and generally tidied up. It's not even 8.30 yet.
Oh well. back to the grindstone, the first three day care children are in, just about to send my two and two day care kids off to school. Could be a quiet day, only one more little one due in today. I might get some more of my study work done later (i'm studying for diploma in child care)

To all have a good day:grouphug:

Hi everyone. I am new here, I just found this site lastnight. My husband and I found out on Thursday (march 6th) that the baby we were expecting had passed. I was very early in pregnancy (I was 10 weeks but the baby's heart had stopped about a week before). This was our first time of being pregnant, we just started trying in December and was over joyed to conceive so quickly. Now I feel like part of my heart is missing, and I also feel a little bit like a failure. I went to the hospital on Friday (march 7) and had a D and C because the Dr. said I had a missed-miscarriage. My husband and I both want to start trying to conceive as soon as possible. I am looking forward to being pregnant again and praying that when it does happen that I will have a healthy baby. I am worried about another miscarriage, but I have been told that a lot of women miscarry the first time and go on to have lots of healthy babies. I have so many questions about what to expect, and I just know that this message board will be amazing support for me.

I just wanted to introduce myself and say Hi. I look forward to getting to know all of you.

Hi Danielsgirl. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. You have certainly come to the right place and I hope you find comfort and support amongst this forum. I will keep you in my prayers, as I know how difficult the loss of a much longed for baby is.

Take care and a big hug.

Hi Ladies

I feel like an intruder writing in here as you seem to know each other all so well but I am hoping to share a part of that too!

I actually had a question to ask. We had a D&C in early Feb - missed m/c at 8.5 weeks. My first AF after was 27 days but prior to being pregnant it was 29 days. DH and I have been BD'ing every second day since 6 days post AF (not for TTC - just because we felt like it!) and its now day 11 post AF. My girlfriend said that we shouldnt be doing that - that we should be BDing from about day 12 every day to day 16 post AF so that DH's swimmers werent diluted. Because I dont know what my body is doing post D&C I just figured to take each day as it comes and enjoy my DH.

i dont really know too much about TTC - it just seemed to happen with DD and our little Angel baby.

Wishing everyone a BFP really soon!:lol:

Natty

Angel - I also heard about Biggest Loser that their week is more like 9 - 14 days so their "weekly" loss is greater. That and they have no life. Makes me question some of the people they have highlighted too. Like those 2 guys who didn't make it in yet one of them manages to train 5 times a day??? Obviously someone is a dole bludger!!! :p

Danielsgirl - I am truly sorry for your loss. Everyone here understands how you feel but I promise you there is nothing that you did, or could have done, to change what happened. My DH and I also lost our first pregnancy in November 07 and we are TTC again. I hope that we all get a BFP soon and then deal with the nerves of being pg!

Natty - your friend is assuming that you ovulate on CD14 and this is not always the case. I have a regular 28 day cycle but o on CD16 (or have for the last two months I have been charting anyway!) Unless your DH has some problem with his swimmers there is no reason why you can't BD every second night! If it has happened before why wouldn't it again? Has your friend ever been pg? If so that may have worked for her but everyone is different and have different things work for them!

As for me, feeling crampy and gassy the last couple of days, not good signs, think AF is on her way. Will POAS Sunday morning but not much hope this month. Not sure what else we can do. We chart, use OPK's, BD for the nights we need to, I have been relaxed all month, trying not to think about it all. What else is there???? :wall::wall::wall:

Welcome Danielsgirl, you have come to the right place. I'm so sorry for your loss, big hugs :hug: After my MC, with the help of the BB girls, I eventually let go and accepted that its just natures way (after many neurotic moments where I too felt like a failure and blamed myself for drinking a cup of coffee or going too hard at the gym!). There is nothing you could have done, not all of our eggs can be perfect, and not all of our DH's sperm can be perfect. BUT, there are some perfect ones and you will get your baby. Chin up.

Welcome too Natty, I am so sorry for your loss, big hugs to you too :hug: Yeah,I agree with Berecca, your friend is probaby just telling you what worked for her and from my short time with BB I can see that we are all sooooo different. It sounds like the perfect way to conceive to me, cos sperm live for 3-5 days, so even if you dont BD on O day, you will either be BDing on the day before or the day after so you should be in with a pretty good chance. Good luck, stick around and keep us informed.

Thanks Jodie and Bec. My girlfriend is TTC#1 and is going by the book Natural Fertility. She seems to think that by BDing too often then the swimmers will be diluted and there wont be too many left by the time you BD just prior/when you ovulate (hence reducing the likelihood that a swimmer will penetrate the egg).:doh:

I guess for me, like most of us, I just want to be pregnant soon - especially given that is all I have thought about since our m/c!

Natty

I really do seriously hate welcoming people into our little thread. I hate the fact that another person has gone through what we have gone through. Danielsgirl and Nattie..... I hate to welcome you.... but Welcome. Hopefully you wont be here for long. Its such a strange little place... we don t want anyone here and we want those that are here gone...... gone off into the world of Pregnant after Miscarriage. So here s to neither of you staying here for long..... or any of us for that matter :pray:

My absolute number one piece of advice..... Do what is right for you! Dont worry about other peoples opinions on what you should be doing or not doing.... You morn your loss in your way ONE DAY AT A TIME! When you feel that its time to TTC again then go for it... most Dr s will say wait until after your first period after miscarriage..... but that didnt stop me or for that matter most of the (wonderful) ladies in here. You do what is right for you! The biggest thing the highest proirity is for you to heal. Only you know how to do that.

Soooo welcome to our little group...... put forward what your best cyber cake recipee is...... its a volunteer thing with the cakes..... and huge hugs to you both :grouphug:

Now Nickster.... Katiegirl.....Starrysky........ and all the other BFP s still lurking around (cause we dont want you to leave ;)) I was havin a chat to my accupunturist today. She is convinced that this cycle is going to be the "winner" I had to inform her that our biggest hurdle at the moment was DH and I actually talking to each other during "o". Annnnnywayyyyy I started talking to her about you guys. About how difficult it is once you are BFP. She looked at me shocked and asked why, I explained it to her and she understood but she told me to instruct you all to go and see a chinese herbalist. Apparently there is some wonder thing available (6 herbs or whatever in it).....gee you can tell I pay attention to everything.... Annnnywayyyyy this capsual is available world wide that is a combination of herbs to assist in the longevity of the pregnancy after miscarriage... Now I m not claiming to be any chinese herb guru.... I can say that I take upwards of 20 per day and if I end up with a BFP that sticks... then thats a hell of a lot better than IVF could do..... I look at my accupunturist, she is mid 50s with the energy I ve only seen in teenages. She is a little pocket rocket that is just vibrant. Energy levels that I would be dangerours with. (hey maybe that would put a smile back on DH).... i m sorry... I keep digressing tonight.... Annnnywayyyyy if your interested I will email her and ask her for more information. I think you would probably have to message me for me to be able to pass the information on. Last time I put something in a thread it was classed as inapropriate to do so and i got my hand smacked by BB..... Ohhhh I m a rebel with a bad mark next to my name. I will try not to lead you all astray.

You see... I m digressing again....If your interested let me know. I will say... I have NEVER had ovary pain.... I ve read about the twinges you get during "o" I now get them.... i now get a lot of things I never used to get.

Ok.... Going now....

Hi Girls,
Got to be quick as I'm on my way out for a run (again)

Welcome to Daniels Girl and Nattie. Dont worry about being new, everyone here is really friendly and we are glad that you have found us (although not glad that you needed to, as Angel says.) Sorry for your losses. You will find lots of advice and support here. About the BD question- I recently heard an OB say that it is best to DTD about 2 or 3 times per week (so about every other day, really) throughout the cycle. Well, who knows, really? I reckon they're all just guessing!! Lots of luck to you both for two BFPs pretty soon.

Tina- So sorry about your guests arriving at the wrong time! Has had me in giggles here! I think you're gonna have to sneak out, just dont get caught, tee hee!

Tempus- We have crocuses galore in our local park. I wouldnt get too jelous, though, the weather here is just hideous- 80mph winds and storms- yuk!

Speaking of the weather, I'm going to go out and run in it now. Hmm, wish it was sunny and warm! Angel B, well done on the .8kg. Are you sticking to that greulling exercise regime? Good on you.

Got to go. My ticker is still all wrong. Ticker factory was not working- well, it'll have to stay wrong for now. Bye!