Time for the talk... not the sex one!!!

Well DD1 is almost 11...... and is getting moody and *****y on the odd occasion, unlike her at all
And me and Ad have noticed little "buds" forming into little breasts....:doh:

I was wearing a bra from 5th grade and also got my period that year too....

So we bought pads in the last shopping, and I'm gonna sit down and have the "period and pads" talk...

I've got a little bag thing with some of the pads, some undies and some gym pants too.. ( i liked putting them over my undies and pad, felt more secure and covered up the wings...) that she keep in her school bag, and take on sleepovers and to her dads house.. I've worded him up to have some pads in her bathroom at his house too....

Anything I've forgotten?? She knows I use tampons for bleeding, but doesnt know know much else..... just thats it part of being older...

Good luck! It's not as bad as you think it's going to be.

We had 'that' talk not so long ago. DS was absolutely hilarious! As I was telling him he was covering his ears saying "Mum STOP!" "EWWWW" "Do we have to talk about this?" LMAO.

DD was most interested though. She got a new pair of bathers which had the sanitary protection sticker in htem and asked me why it had a period pad in it LMAO!!

Ohh, too cute!!!

Ill always remember mum telling my young brother that pads were for your shoes, to keep them clean and smell nice..... well guess who started wearing them in his basketball sneakers?????:ROFL:

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Ohh, too cute!!!

Ill always remember mum telling my young brother that pads were for your shoes, to keep them clean and smell nice..... well guess who started wearing them in his basketball sneakers?????:ROFL:

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:ROFL: One of our babysitters had tampons fall out of her school bag so we told our brother tampons were ear plugs for when you go swimming! Oh the things you do!

I'm not looking forward to this day, but I'm definetely taking tips from you!
It just happened to me out of the blue, mum was at work, I was hanging with my mates & home alone. I cried.
I love your idea of the bag. You've done well!

I'll be watching this thread with interest, thanks for posting PB :)
My DD is 9, but I've noticed little 'buds' too. I am really not looking forward to having this conversation with her as she complelety freaks out now when she sees the tiniest bit of blood!
I cried for days when AF first visited me, and I have the feeling this will be her reaction when we have this talk too...

Nic

Good luck with it all. I remember my mum had 'this' talk with me, only thing was that she was too late, I had already been getting my periods for half a year, I just hadn't told her. I didn't know how to break the news to her when she decided to have the talk so the next month when I got my period I pretented that was the first time :lol:

So maybe you should ask her if she has had one yet and how much she knows about it all first - it may save some embarrassment. Also I have noticed a Kas Cooke book out ther called 'girls stuff' (I haven't read it though so don't know how good it is) - maybe something like that would be useful, teenage (and pre-teen) girls don't always like talking to their parents about things, but it is good for them to have all the useful information.

I knew all about it before it happened too, luckily... mum was at work and I was at home with dad... :doh: who is a prude!!!

So I fixed myself up, put my undies in the wash tub, and told mum when she came home. She told me how well i'd done, and showed me how to soak them in a bucket with water and powder... :lol:
So not a big drama at all... hoping it goes as well for Taylah!!!! :pray:

I just hope she's here, and not at her dads!!!! :lol: He'll ring me to come deal with it, the sook!!!! :rolleyes:

Uumm, good idea, I might grab her book too!!!!

I had the talk with my daughter when she was about your daughter's age.
I got my first AF at 12 and I was very developed by then (wearing a C cup bra :()
My daughter is 12 in July and she has small breasts now... she wears a bra everyday and she also carries a little make up bag in her school bag with 2 pads & some underpants as well as some spare change ($3) for just in case she is at a friends after school or somewhere and needs to call me.
I've always been open about things like this so I know she will definitely not hide it from me when she does get her period for the first time. I think when she does, I will take her out somewhere nice for lunch to celebrate her growing up.

My Aunt and Uncle took each of thier kids out for milkshakes!!!!!

It was a big deal, they had 7 kids, 6 girls, and a bought milkshake was major luxury!!!

Uummm, might take Tay to our local tavern for dinner....she'd love that....
Another good idea, thanks!!! :D

My dsd got hers a couple of months ago. There is a couple of very good websites. Mods please delete if I'm not allow to have them here. It's My body and Libragirl :: HOME

Oh, I hope they can stay so all the parents of pre teens can see them... the "its my body " is really good... thanks..... :clap:

My older sister sort of had the talk with me! How slack was my mum?! I remember that book - Where do I come from and it had pictures or different ages of boys & girls and their development.

I feel bad, but I've already had a talk with DD7 not *the* talk, but she knows I have periods and why. And she also knows when she's a teenager her boobs will grow, her vagina will get hairy and her "baby house" will start cleaning itself out for when she's an adult (ie. her period). This is how I explained it, that "The house in my tummy (as she called it that when pg with DS) cleans itself out once a month if it doesn't get used to grow a baby. And because the house is made of blood, it comes out as blood." She sees it as just like me dusting heh. It was age appropriate, and it stopped her freaking out over my menstrual period.

When it finally does happen, we plan on celebrating her womanhood. And I keep meaning to read a book called "The Red Tent" which my gf is reading, it explores the old world and how they celebrated a girl entering her womanhood (as well as parts of the bible).

Ooo, I'll look that book up too...

Something on the Libra site I never thought of was Liners... I should get her those to wear before hand shouldn't I??? Ill have to take more notice of her undies too I guess..... eeeewwwww :lol:

The two big kids might like deodorant now too????
They have a face scrub in the shower for Jay, he gets the odd pimple now and then.....

Yeah liners are a definite must for pubescent girls. All those hormones create a LOT of discharge.

eeeewwww again :lol:
I'll grab some in this weeks shop, and talk on Sunday night....
I have a few sex books, but I have a good one, The Guide to Love and Sex.. ill see if it has mestruation in it, it should.....

Yep, liners are a must. Girls start have white discharge for up to about a year before menstruation starts. The special outing is good too :D And maybe a heat pack for cramps.

Also pop a brown paper bag in her little purse for discreet disposal of used pads - just in case the school or wherever she is at the time doesn't have appropriate bins.

When she does get AF, marking it on the calender (maybe just a little dot in the corner of the day) just to keep an eye on when it's due etc. helps as they can be quite irregular for the first few years.

Good luck :D

I always had a fash washer (folded up) and a little mini bar of soap in my school bag with the spare knickers too in case of messy leaks.

Good luck. Hope she takes it well. I just got given a book to read and then a pad thown at me when the day finally came (I was about 11).

Personally I detest my period and every symptom that goes with it! :-) I had them very heavy in school and feel so sorry for anyone giving or recieving the talk! LOL.

My baby looks to be a girl too so I dread the day it is my turn!

Chin up and I hope she's not too freaked out by it.

The only thing I would contribute is to make sure that the little bag of necessities you give her is something like a funky makeup bag with a zip...waterproof and spillage proof and discreet.

My mum was too cheap for anything like that and gave me some pads in a brown paper bag to keep in my school back pack (the old surfboard style pads that had no wings and no funky discreet individual wrapping). The paper bag was getting ripped so I put in the side pocket of the backpack (not an easy fit) and one day it fell out and the paper bag opened and everything came tumbling out and I was mortified. In front of the boys too.

Re deodorant...you will know when she needs it when she starts smelling of BO. I actually had to start wearing deodorant in kindergarten/prep and once again Mum went cheap on me and got me a roll on. I didn't like feeling wet and icky under my arms so I would try not to wear it and then Mum would tell me I smelled...it really wasn't the best way to make me wear it (especially given that I was very embarrassed because I knew nobody else in my class was wearing deodorant). So if you do pick a deodorant out make sure it is a spray or one of those white solid sticks that aren't wet.

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Good luck with it all. I remember my mum had 'this' talk with me, only thing was that she was too late, I had already been getting my periods for half a year, I just hadn't told her. I didn't know how to break the news to her when she decided to have the talk so the next month when I got my period I pretented that was the first time :lol:

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I did the exact same thing.. My mum found out on Mothers day and even now she thinks her little girl became a woman on mothers day and I haven't ever had the heart to tell her otherwise :lol:

I will remember the bag idea when it comes time for me..

Do you think it is important to tell boys as well and what age?

Ill be telling DS about the basics, so he doesnt tease or pick on or get upset if/when he see's his sister.. or other girls at school for that matter!!

The indepth talk will just be us 2....

I told my DS1 when he was in year 5. Because it was coming up to the time where you could see little girls in his class starting to develop. I have never hidden my period from my kids in that there has always been pads & tampons in the bathroom and they understood it was because when Mum doesn't have a baby in her belly she gets bleeding like other women.
DS1 knew to never, ever tease anyone about their period or the fact that they had pads or tampons and that if he ever saw blood on the back of a girls dress/skirt at school to quietly let a female teacher know.

DS knows about periods too! Well, he's super-interested in the loo atm.

I remember my first period VERY well. Bad cramps, mum brought me home from school as I couldn't walk, told me to get over it, every woman had it, stop being a baby. My little sister was so shamed when she got her period she threw her pants away. I remember being told that. Was my reaction of "I shouldn't be making a fuss as it's just a period" wrong then? I thought it was for years as my sister's reaction was held up as correct. (BTW, I eventually went on the Pill due to severe period pain which was NOT normal, my mother now admits!) But I wasn't special, I was just a silly child for making a fuss. Should I have a daughter, I'd like her to feel special as she makes this milestone on her journey to becoming an adult woman.

I can't imagine getting to senior school and not knowing about periods! No offence, honestly, I'm in awe of the innocence you can keep for your children. We learn about it at school age 6-7 these days.

i was in a bra by grade three, so mum and i had the chat about periods and stuff, and from then on, i had pads in my school bag and a little bag i took with me if i stayed anywhere else. i didn't get my period til i was 16 though! i guess i was advanced in some ways, very slow in others....


i "think" i'll talk to Gremlin when she's maybe 8 or 9, earlier if she shows interest - there is nothing to be ashamed so i'm not going to hide it!

I got my period 3am in the morning just before a family trip to Namibia!! Was interessting

My mom AND dad had this talk with me. My mom explained the basic higiene and practial part (showed how to use a tampon) and dad explained the workings and why (biology teacher - in awe of the working of a woman's body) Already WAY before I got my period and both my sisters sat in, even though they did not understand yet. We all sat in at each other's "period" talks :)

Then when we got back from the vacation, my dad took me out on a "date". Dinner, movie and a nice bracelet.

I'll definatly be teaching both my kids about periods. I feel it's important for a boy/man to know what a girl/woman goes throught and how to behave (discreet and respectfull) and not be shy to go and buy her some feminine products of her choice, if the need arise ;)

I used liners after ds's birth and when going to the loo, dd would ask me if I am going to change my diper?? ;)

when i got mine my mum made a big deal about it and i hated it. done the whole was so excited wanted to take me out had to tell nana. i was like big deal and hated the attention from it.

we didnt learn about it at school until year 10, and give I got mine in year 7 that was kinda too late.
Luckily my mum spoke to me about it, but I refused to take the stuff to school in my school bag - we had no where to store our bags and people used to go through them - so there was no way I was them to school until I had to. Lucky for me it was school holidays, and I was on the loo at home.

Well we've had the talk since I started this thread, and it was really good... We were both there, I talked, and Ad just sat with us...

She took it fine, we put a pad into some undies, and she decided to wear it to bed... :lol: She is such a card... :lol:

Her only question was "will it hurt?" I explained IT doesn't hurt, but she may get some cramps and belly aches, feel a little sick and dizzy...( I had iron tablets for a while cause I kept fainting.. )

Showed her tampons for when she's older, and she has her liners and pads in her underwear drawer

She siad she had never heard of them before (periods) and none of the other girls had mentioned it.

We decided to go bra shopping after winter, as singlets will do till then... I jokingly told her Ad can go with her, and she went, "yeah, ok, at Target?"

She is such a little me!!! :p