Time for the talk... not the sex one!!!

[misty]

Good luck with it all. I remember my mum had 'this' talk with me, only thing was that she was too late, I had already been getting my periods for half a year, I just hadn't told her. I didn't know how to break the news to her when she decided to have the talk so the next month when I got my period I pretented that was the first time

So maybe you should ask her if she has had one yet and how much she knows about it all first - it may save some embarrassment. Also I have noticed a Kas Cooke book out ther called 'girls stuff' (I haven't read it though so don't know how good it is) - maybe something like that would be useful, teenage (and pre-teen) girls don't always like talking to their parents about things, but it is good for them to have all the useful information.

[Lisa]

I had the talk with my daughter when she was about your daughter's age.
I got my first AF at 12 and I was very developed by then (wearing a C cup bra )
My daughter is 12 in July and she has small breasts now... she wears a bra everyday and she also carries a little make up bag in her school bag with 2 pads & some underpants as well as some spare change ($3) for just in case she is at a friends after school or somewhere and needs to call me.
I've always been open about things like this so I know she will definitely not hide it from me when she does get her period for the first time. I think when she does, I will take her out somewhere nice for lunch to celebrate her growing up.

[Pretty Butterfly]

My Aunt and Uncle took each of thier kids out for milkshakes!!!!!

It was a big deal, they had 7 kids, 6 girls, and a bought milkshake was major luxury!!!

Uummm, might take Tay to our local tavern for dinner....she'd love that....
Another good idea, thanks!!!

[AwesomeFoursome]

My dsd got hers a couple of months ago. There is a couple of very good websites. Mods please delete if I'm not allow to have them here. It's My body and Libragirl :: HOME

[Pretty Butterfly]

Oh, I hope they can stay so all the parents of pre teens can see them... the "its my body " is really good... thanks.....

[RhiChiChi]

My older sister sort of had the talk with me! How slack was my mum?! I remember that book - Where do I come from and it had pictures or different ages of boys & girls and their development.

[Rouge]

I feel bad, but I've already had a talk with DD7 not *the* talk, but she knows I have periods and why. And she also knows when she's a teenager her boobs will grow, her vagina will get hairy and her "baby house" will start cleaning itself out for when she's an adult (ie. her period). This is how I explained it, that "The house in my tummy (as she called it that when pg with DS) cleans itself out once a month if it doesn't get used to grow a baby. And because the house is made of blood, it comes out as blood." She sees it as just like me dusting heh. It was age appropriate, and it stopped her freaking out over my menstrual period.

When it finally does happen, we plan on celebrating her womanhood. And I keep meaning to read a book called "The Red Tent" which my gf is reading, it explores the old world and how they celebrated a girl entering her womanhood (as well as parts of the bible).

[Pretty Butterfly]

Ooo, I'll look that book up too...

Something on the Libra site I never thought of was Liners... I should get her those to wear before hand shouldn't I??? Ill have to take more notice of her undies too I guess..... eeeewwwww

The two big kids might like deodorant now too????
They have a face scrub in the shower for Jay, he gets the odd pimple now and then.....

[Rouge]

Yeah liners are a definite must for pubescent girls. All those hormones create a LOT of discharge.

[aussienic]

Good luck with it all. I remember my mum had 'this' talk with me, only thing was that she was too late, I had already been getting my periods for half a year, I just hadn't told her. I didn't know how to break the news to her when she decided to have the talk so the next month when I got my period I pretented that was the first time

I did the exact same thing.. My mum found out on Mothers day and even now she thinks her little girl became a woman on mothers day and I haven't ever had the heart to tell her otherwise

I will remember the bag idea when it comes time for me..

Do you think it is important to tell boys as well and what age?

[Pretty Butterfly]

Ill be telling DS about the basics, so he doesnt tease or pick on or get upset if/when he see's his sister.. or other girls at school for that matter!!

The indepth talk will just be us 2....

[Lisa]

I told my DS1 when he was in year 5. Because it was coming up to the time where you could see little girls in his class starting to develop. I have never hidden my period from my kids in that there has always been pads & tampons in the bathroom and they understood it was because when Mum doesn't have a baby in her belly she gets bleeding like other women.
DS1 knew to never, ever tease anyone about their period or the fact that they had pads or tampons and that if he ever saw blood on the back of a girls dress/skirt at school to quietly let a female teacher know.