I hear you, but I'm not entirely sure I'm with you.....

My kids will ask what we are eating and if it has a name, I'll tell them. Spag bol, shepherds pie, frittata, stir fry.... it doesn't mean I make it the same everytime, but I think for them to recognise tastes and what they are generally known as is a good thing.

I do a savoury mince and put in with mash all the time, I put the potato as a circle flat on a plate and the mince is hair, carrots are the eyes and nose and tomato sauce smile and my kids call it happy face dinner. I don't use a recipe and its a standard for getting rid of vegetables hiding in the mince with some stock.... same way I make shepherds pie.

If my kids ask what is in it, I tell them what I threw in. I rarely use recipes, just look in the cupboard for what we have and try to get my flavours right. I taste as I go too and make sure its okay.... or I use DH as my taster if I'm scared