LuLu - they spend a lot of time at the football/cricket club but still choose mums company over kids their own age, they play a sport all year round they just don't seem interested in spending time with other people... it's kind of odd.

Regarding the motorbikes they know how to use them and the go-karts, they have used them before

I spend a lot of time defending them to my DP and just say it's not their fault they don't get out but the last couple of days i am not sure it's just that, we have given them so many opportunities to act their age or do more mature things and they still just sit around like 5yr olds.

I just don't know where to go with it, i have reminded them 5 times today to flush the toilet then before i go in and one of them hadn't put the seat up and managed to pee on the seat and the floor and didn't flush even after being reminded.
DD can't use the toilet and unless i managed to pee sideways and UP the bowl it wasn't me.
At their age these things should not be issues right?

I love them to bits but it's getting beyond a joke.