16yo niece staying over with 17yo boyfriend......

[~breeze~]

I had my nephew & his girlfriend stay over (cant remember exactly how old they were though, they may have been 18??) We let them stay in the same room as they stayed at each others houses all the time & they're going to be "doing it" so to speak anyway, I thought at least if we allow them to sleep in together then they may not feel the need to get physical IYKWIM but if we kept them apart they'd want to do it even more. Does that make sense?

My nephew started being sexually active at 14 yrs old. My sister made sure he always had condoms on him & let him stay at his girlfriends house & her stay there. She did keep them in different rooms for a long time but would sneak out through the night & catch them in the lounge room together LOL. The girlfriends mum let them sleep together at her house.
Kids grow up waaaaaaaaaay too fast. Sex is so over-rated IMO!

[Madham]

If your not comfortable with it say no. My ex partner and i once stayed at my nana's house and stayed in seperate rooms as i new she would not approve as we were not married. I respected her values as it was her house and would expect anyone staying with me to do the same.

[Footsteps]

i hope you find a answer leash...hope wether he stays or not you all have a great time and jazz enjoys herself.
take care leash and hope your ok hun
rach xox

[Lulu]

Took me awhile to ponder this one

* they sleep together at home anyway. Her mum thinks its ok (hhmmm)
*it doesn't mean they will be 'doing it' in your house
*he is a good boy and treats her with respect - they may even have enough respect for YOU, not to do it in your house (I was like that at that age), without you having to ask them not too ( at the thought of Leash trying that)
*you would probably rather she had a good relationship and slept in the same room, that a yuk one with a nasty ass boy that slept on your couch - yeah?

I do think it might be a good idea to let her know she needs to ask if he can come along - that's the real world no matter how old you are, and I don't like the whole 'package' thing at that age, I like them to have their own lives apart from the BF..but that might just be me.

Anyhoo..thats my splintered thoughts...

[Indadhanu]

they may even have enough respect for YOU, not to do it in your house (I was like that at that age), without you having to ask them not too ( at the thought of Leash trying that)

LMAO, I could tell them we have a no-sex policy... we would be practicing what we preech lmao!

[AngelPunks]

ok a couple of thoughts

I'd probably sit her down and explain that you have issues with not being asked if he could stay over. I'd also explain that you do feel uncomfortable about them sleeping together under your roof, but you're aware that both sets of parents allow it. Let them know your reasons why you're uncomfortable or have issues, let them know that you don't want them to feel uncomfortable in your house or to stop visiting. You may find that they respect your view of this and either not sleep in the same bed or he may not sleep over.

Good luck with it all.

My mother wouldn't let my boyfriend's stay over even when I moved back home in my 20s. She was also horrified when she found out her son (who was in his LATE 20s) was living with his now wife (they've been married 34 years this year), when they were in the UK, before they got married.