Haha we should start a support group!

Totally know what your talking about with the defiant responses..
E.g I told DD if she kept splashing people in the pool then she would be in a time out for ten minutes and she would have to get out and sit down on the stairs and she says "ten minutes isn't even a long time" (picture - ****y grin and one raised eyebrow, crossed arms) took all of my strength not to pick her up by her arm and drag her out of the pool and toss her into her bedroom!

Sometimes I'm amazed by the fact that I have managed not to ever have smacked her.. She's really testing my self restraint these days though!!