I would say wake-up time would be aimed at 7am, so how long does the child need to sleep? Most need about 11-12 hours at this age (I am told) so a bedtime of 7-8pm would be about right. Some need more; I know one 5-year-old who needs a 6pm at the latest bedtime to be up for 7.30 the next morning. Some need less; I fear DS is going to be a "less" one. If he needs 10 hours sleep and is fine and healthy and happy on this, I'll do his bedtime routine starting around 8pm and suggest he reads to himself until I come in to say night-night and turn off the light, around 9pm-ish. He can read in the morning if he wakes up early.
Can you let the teacher know this child is up so late? That way the teacher can comment the child seems really tired, could he maybe go to bed a half-hour or so earlier? I know it's hard to get them in bed for 7pm some nights but I think he does need it... that way the mum is aware that his schoolwork and education is suffering but without "come on woman, a decent bedtime would be nice!" said to her face.
My 6 year old and 3 year old son's both go to bed at 7.30pm school night and sunday nights, friday and saturday i let them stay up until 8.30pm.
I agree each child is different some children need more sleep then others but i know with my 6yr old if he goes to bed past 7.30pm i'm having to wake him for school (that if his brother hasn't beaten me too it)
Between 7 -8pm for ours who is nearly 6yrs.
On the weekends (Fri or Sat nites) it will be the same unless there is something different happening or good movie on or we have promised as treat to stay up later.
Recently we have made some bedtime changes cause DS wasnt going to sleep till at least 9.30 even if was in bed by 7pm.
We tell him he has 10 mins light on time for reading after we have said g`nite and then we turn it off. We are shutting his door a bit more than the open we use to do and tell him that if he talks we will have to shut the door properly. So far (past 3 weeks) this has worked well and he is mostly asleep by 8.30pm. He either doesnt want his door shut, so goes off to sleep, or if we we shut it he goes to sleep quick too. He also has a little night light, but if he is really talking etc then we tell him we will take that off him - which we havent had to do yet. We also stopped playing a night time cd at bedtime, as much as it used to help him get to sleep when he was younger, we have found it was now preventing him.
Oh, and we have also told him that if he needs to pee or water, then to get up quickly and quietly and go do that, then get back in bed. We leave a cup in the bathroom for him, so he doesnt have to come and get us to help in the kitchen.
thanks girls...thought I was being a 'mean' mum by putting my kids to bed at 8. I to have a little bugger who wouldnt sleep before 10.20pm..but he was in his bed reading (joys of an autisc child) so now he HAS to have the light turned of at 8.30...so far so good.
As for the little boy across the road... I drove past him this morning on his way to school...pale as a ghost with cirlces under his eyes.....my children go to different school to him so chatting the his teacher is out of the question...but I dont know the child's name and an anonamous phone call might be in order I think.
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I drove past him this morning on his way to school...pale as a ghost with cirlces under his eyes.....my children go to different school to him so chatting the his teacher is out of the question...but I dont know the child's name and an anonamous phone call might be in order I think.
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