I am not a hairy person, but I remember around grade 6 some of the girls started shaving, and a few of the boys started noticing girls with hair on their legs and it became a big deal. My mum didn't let me remove hair until I started high school and I did feel quite self conscious about it, and I didn't even have much. I've always said that if it bothers my girls they can start waxing when the time comes. My mum use to wax me and that was enough for me.

I know some cultures just automatically start waxing around 9 so that by their late teens they are nearly hair free, or a lot less at least.

I think when she starts being bothered by it then go from there. I figure being a girl is hard enough with changes without feeling self conscious about hair.

Teeki's made a good point to about reassuring that a daughter is beautiful no matter what society says.