We have a bit of that going on here with creche. As a teacher, we are used to kids bringing stuff to school but most schools have the policy of, if it gets lost/broken then there is really nothing the school can do about it (unless stolen and even that is problematic). Anyway I think maybe there are a few things you could do, firstly find out when show and tell days are for her. Secondly, even if she wants to take things on days that aren't show and tell days, set a day that she can take one item, set it on a calendar, and she can pack it the night before so she doesn't slow you up choosing stuff in the morning. It might even be good to have a chat to her teacher who might set the rules for her as well, so that you have ammo on both sides!!! Maybe if she isn't getting ready properly and running late, she doesn't get to take something? So it is more like a reward than the norm ITMS. Good luck hun, tricky one!