my ds1 is almost 14 and he still wets the bed...(doesnt produce the hormone to stop his body from reducing the amount of urine produce while he sleeps). We have tried tofranil and the pad and bell as well as u/s to see if there was a medical reason behind why he was still wetting. Almost as a last resort we went and saw a paediatrician who suggested some night time exercises for our son to do as well as some for when he wakes up. So far this seems to be working but it has only been a fortnight but the signs do seem promising.

My dh thought much the same... that it was ds1's fault but he read an article in a Defence force newspaper that said that bedwetting is more common than most people realise and can be passed down from one or both parents. It can be frustrating but you just need to be patient... Get some info off the internet and give it to your dh so he can understand a little more about it...