Well, it seems my rant to SIL last night has done the job. Sanity seems to have prevailed - they're on their way back now and it appears that they've only been to see the government school.
Thanks everyone.
We've already explained our reasons to DSD but if the subject comes up again, we'll just say that life is about choices and if she chooses not to make an effort at school then we choose not to pay for her education. We have also told her, however, that the option will/would be on the table if she was making 100% effort and had valid reasons for wanting to switch. Can't see it happening personally.
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