Hey Shell,

I think wrapping their heads around the concept of death is really common at your DD's age and most kids go through some anxiety about it to some degree. Kids don't get the idea of forever until they are 7 or 8 and at your DD's age, she might still feel like she has control over events (magical thinking) which could be complicating her ideas. I think you're doing exactly what she needs you to do - lots of reassurance, age appropriate explanations and minimising the likelihood of it occurring anytime soon. Generally, the advice when talking to kids about difficult or controversial topics is to start simple and then be guided by their questions or their repeated raising of the issue over time as to how much more detail they need and are ready for. The only other ideas I have is to try and find out where it's coming from at this time - was it a book, movie or comment from another child at school? It might help you put it in context for her if you know the specific trigger. Also, I would try searching for ag appropriate book titles in an online bookstore to see if there is anything appropriate for your DD (this would only be if she keeps bringing it up over time and talking with her didn't seem to be helping).

I think it's normal. You need to be honest but also not let on her questions and emotions are concerning you. It's a difficult balance.