How do I give her the tools?

[MrsFabuloso]

Oh my lord she's getting worse not better. She is pushing me to my limits.

I have started saying a little gratitude prayer at night, just something for them to say what they appreciate in their lives, like friends, family, the food we have ect... she is doing that ok. But she is just whinging at every other thing! She yells at her brothers to get out, go away or leave her alone all the time. I don't mind giving her a little space, but she needs to learn to be with her family too. She needs to be patient with her littlest brother and to learn about speaking respectfully and just being nice to people who love you. I am talking to her at times other than when she is being a brat about how lucky we are, she is. About what we have and she gets lots of stuff as treats and that we do things for her that are special. We talk about how we live in a wonderful country, town, home.....

I am trying my hardest to keep my cool, but have to admit, I am failing at it, probably half the time. I just feel like such a failure. She's telling me no one listens and that I don't love her. WE tell her that we love her very much, but don't like her behaviours and that is frustrating me/us.

So over this horrid entitled/I want/gimme gimme behaviour. I'm ready to sell her on ebay!

[Doing my best]

I was just talking about similar behaviour with a friend this afternoon..

I am trying to put it down to being tired, coming to end of school term, and being excited about some end of term activities..

I might not be so calm about it continuing into next term though.