I feel bad. Suggestions welcome

[wysiwyg]

ETA - on another tangent - I have often thought to myself how mad we all are having our well-rounded dinners at dinner time. Surely it makes sense to provide that food earlier in the day when your body is actually active and using it?? Do you think your son might cope a bit better having a larger (ie non-sandwich) lunch and then having a smaller light-type meal at night?

I agree we try to eat at lunch time (taking cooked meals to work etc.) and have lighter tea. We lived in Spain and this was normal and agreed with us far more - DH especially struggles with eating main meal at night finds he doesn't sleep as well. It is one of the reasons why I wish schools did school dinners rather than taking lunches in - I grew up with school dinners and wish they were available here more.

[Pholi]

I found this a really interesting thread, and the only thing I can suggest in addition to the wonderful advice above is to make second helpings not available - perhaps for anyone in the family.

[LuluHB]

The only thing I would suggest that hasn't already been said is add water to his meal times if you don't already. He has a glass of water with his dinner. He drinks it. If he wants seconds, he drinks another glass of water, then sits for 5 minutes. If he still wants seconds then the kid's hungry so give him some food (provided its healthy of course). My DD1 will go through stages of wanting enormous amounts of food and then will go back to surviving on thin air. I don't think you can regulate food for growing children the same way you can for an adult.

If you and your DH are trying to lose weight don't talk about it as "losing weight". Say you are trying to feel healthier and get fitter. The way you treat yourself and think about your own body is going to be an enormous part of how he thinks about his.