Just wanted to say I felt the same when Jaz started going to the psyc. That something would be said about past 'issues' & that they'd get taken away.
Before DD2 our relationship wasn't great & Jaz saw all of it.
Anyway. She's said a few things, but he knows that is all in the past & does not judge me at all. Never has.
Had a post all written out but the server dropped out, grrrr...
Anyway, following on from Bath (who has some awesome observations in her post!)I wanted to suggest Scouts or similar in your area - it will provide something to look forward to each week, as well as role models and friends
In 3 years' time he can join the CFA juniors, as well!!
Well on the walk back from school today we had another talk he told me that our talk last night made him feel better... so i told himthat anytime he feels down to just remember all the good things about himself and that if he cant think of any all he has to do is ask me why I love him and I will gladly tell him why I love him....
I am glad he is feeling a bit better this afternoon..
I tell you.. whoever wrote the book.. The first year of your babies life is the hardest must not have had kids.. I don't know about you or anyone else on here but I am finding it harder as they get older..
Very true Nic... give me a 1 year old aaaaanyday! My 13yo is 100 times more confounding!!!
Well done tali It sounds like things are getting back on track... until the next de-railment... I think we've all got many de-railments in store for the next 20 years or so!
Well the school phyc rang today and they are going to start testing about his learning and behavior disablitys this week so at least he will have a chance to tell them how he feels... Just worry he might tell them that he hates it here and wants to go back to Cairns... Not much we can do about that i guess...
Thank you all once again you really lifted my sprits yesterday, so as bath said until the next time one of our " Oldies" gives us some more grey hair....
Hi Tali,
I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but could he be learning this behaviour as a coping mechanism? The reason I ask is that in the original post where you say that he hates himself, you pretty much say the same kind of thing about yourself.
Is this something you say out loud about yourself when things go wrong? If it is, perhaps you could look inside yourself and think about why you say it (eg. do you really think that? does it get you attention you feel you don't get otherwise? do you easily blame yourself?). Perhaps if it is learnt then he is responding to the same triggers.
As I said, I am sorry if this seems out of line, because I don't know you or your son, but wanted to point this out as a possibility because it is obviously an important issue to sort out now for your son.
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It sounds like things are getting back on track... until the next de-railment... I think we've all got many de-railments in store for the next 20 years or so!
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