My Baby HATES himself ...

[New Dawn]

Even though I am very self critcal( sp?) I am very awhere of what I say in frount of my children as i know what self doult in a mother can bring self doult with the child... I was brought up with a mum who never took a complament if you ever said she looked pretty she would always tell you that she didnt... so I know that this breds self doulbt in your child as it did in me thought my opions didnt count thought if mum think she isnt pretty then what am I as I am her child, so on and so on.... So I do make sure that is one thing I never show my children if they think I look pretty then I must look good that day and thank them for it...Aways tell them what a great help they are when they have been helpful, but as I have said when on my own with out BHL I have a shorter fuse and can become fustrated easily which is something I am working on and have to say in the last two days sence all this happend I havent rasied my voice once and we are all happier for it....

It just scared me because as a pre-teen I used to self harm I didnt cut but would pinch or punch my upper leg until I brused( sp?) which at the time made me feel better I just dont want my Boy to go down the same path....So I hope if we incurrage( sp?) him now and take the right steps to help him we will stop this self hate cycle NOW...

Thanks for your thoughts krysalyss

[Lulu]

Oh I'm glad he is feeling better Tali.

Dont worry about the kids being taken away, you are seeking help because you love your son so much. Its rather obvious! Who would take a child away from a conscientious, loving mother??? Trust yourself more .

I also think encouraging his social skills will help. Scouts is a lovely idea.