Is this normal?

[Nai]

I know lots of 6 yo kids and only a couple are like this. Same with the 8yo but I don't know as many of them. I wouldn't say it was the norm, but I also don't think it is uncommon if that makes sense. Especially if they are feeding off each other and revving each other up, it can escalate the behaviour.

I don't have any idea how to deal with it sorry! I refuse to look after he kids I know who are like this as they scare me lol.

[misty]

My kids can be like that at times. They don't get that bad very often, but about once a month defiance will set in and they will push the boundaries to the extreme (usually when I am already pushed to my limit trying to cope with other things.

They get seperated and put in their beds when they do get like that, until they have calmed down, apologised and are willing to behave again. My 6 yr old had discovered while I was pregnant that I couldn't physically force her to do anything, so she would lay down on the floor and refuse to move telling me 'you cann't make me', so I started confiscating all of her precious trinkets and toys, threatening to throw them in the bin or give them away if she refused to obey me.

My 6yr old nephew tried to pull a similiar stunt on me and my mum last week while we were babysitting him. Mum ended up having to give him a smack on the bum, because he got violent and started to deliberated destroy the bedroom and the stuff in it as well as screaming abuse. He's behaviour was really random - he had been good all day right up until that point and then just switched when he decided he didn't want his cousins near him anymore (he is an only child and not used to having other kids around for too long). His behaviour was worse then anything Ii have ever seen in my kids even, but then again, he seemed to think he would get away with it (and was very surprised when we didn't back down, whereas my kids 'know' that there are going to be consequences, and that I can be ever more stubborn then they are. My sister was appalled when she heard about his behaviour, but not completely surprised as he gets away with it at his fathers house apparently.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

No, not normal. They could be overtired, overstimulated or just unsure of things and testing boundaries - but certainly at 8 years old I would expect a little more curtesy and respect.

As for the violence - that is really not on. I know children can get excited and hit/kick - but this seems just nastiness, from what you say. I'd be putting them outside the house (physically, if I had to) and not letting them in until they apologise, but then I do not tolerate rudeness or deliberate violence.

[Traveller]

I know a few kids like that, although thankfully not mine. Having said that mine do fight and show defiance from time to time so I think the behaviours are normal, but acting like that all the time is what's not normal iyswim.

[Tinks]

It's obviously normal in their family, it isn't 'normal' in mine.

[*Ang*]

I know a few kids like that, although thankfully not mine. Having said that mine do fight and show defiance from time to time so I think the behaviours are normal, but acting like that all the time is what's not normal iyswim.

Exactly what Traveller said. Showing defiance is kind of normal as they "Test" the boundaries - mine tend to do it more at their grandparents house's as they try and see what they can get away with. I suspect some of it is "for show" being at your house and in a different environment. Doesn't make it right but it also doesn't mean they are like that all the time.

Wrestling and karate chopping is kind of normal especially amongst boys/brothers/cousins....I wouldn't be too worried about that. I would be worried if escalated to punching tho - that is completely different type of behaviour that warrants addressing.