could I suggest to you that perhaps it could be a fear of choking?

I suffered this condition for many years (along with other anxiety) and I would only eat soft foods and foods i was familiar with and I would NEVER eat when I was by myself. I ended up losing weight and got down to 42kg. After seeking help from my dr, I was placed on medication and I have since recovered from this condition.

This seemed to develop for me after my grandfather passed away (I took it pretty hard as he meant alot to me) and as you suggested it seemed to start for your dd after the birth of your angel ds.

Can you get a second opinion or maybe ask your dd if she is scared of choking? It is a very sensitive issue and can be embarrasing to talk about with someone. I know i felt really stupid the first time I mentioned it to the dr.

good luck. Let us know how you go.