Teenagers: Pocket Money If They Have A Job?

[fionas]

Yay! DSD got her first job today - working at a clothes store. I'm actually quite proud of her because she literally bugged them for a couple of months until they gave it to her. She did a trial at a cafe too but decided it wasn't for her which is fair enough - at least she gave it a shot.

We've decided we'll still pay her pocket money though. Depending on what she earns, we may put it aside for her into an account she can't touch, then she'll have a lump sum when she turns 18. But we'll see how the job pans out first.

[Rouge]

Thats awesome! WTG for your DD, and way to go for you guys... talk about awesome parenting!!!!

[fionas]

Thanks Rouge - TBH we don't feel like we're doing an awesome job but when I compare us with her mum who now expects DSD to send HER money because she (DSD) has got a job, I think we're doing OK!

[Rouge]

Geeze thats a bit rough, I hope you guys put your foot down about that one.

I am lucky to be surrounded by awesome women who parent teens well, so fingers crossed when its my turn it won't be such a bumpy ride.

[fionas]

You'll be fine Rouge because you're a good listener. I think that's the main thing - listen to their concerns and take them into account. If you don't agree, tell them why but always give them a reason rather than "no, just because I said no." I've read a few things by Michael Carr-Gregg and I think he's pretty good.

[Footsteps]

hows your dsd doing? i cant believe her mum even though mines similar in the last 3 years shes borrowed $8000 off me and dp. you sound like your doing a fantastic job and that shes quite mature for her age and a great young lady. xx