p.s. I'm currently about to start year 12, although did year 11 last year through adult education courses, (dropped out in year 10 to work overseas, went back last year yada yada yada). I did that all with a part-time job, paying rent, bills, groceries, my own books, everything. I still passed year 11 with all of that, so I'm sure your DSD will be able to do it too if she wants to. I think it was Lulu who said year 11 isn't as much of a big deal; so true! I reckon withhold all $$, and once she realises there isn't any money coming in from you or her dad to buy all he things she wants, she might start enjoying the idea of a PT job more and more