Hi Dianne I agree with the other ladies I would definitely be looking at getting some sort of court order to protect yourself and your daughter. That way perhaps the school for next year can be aware and maybe move the girl on to another school in her own zone.
Best of luck
You're so right, I need to stop figuring her out and I truly do feel like I need to be a step ahead and not take any precautions. My daughter invited this girl to her party at our house and she came. This girl caused trouble in my home on my daughters birthday party, she had two guests in tears, she segregated girls etc, it's a long story. Up until that point I'd never spoken to the mum about the issues the girls were having at school, I dealt directly with the school myself. When the girls father picked her up I told him what had happened as it happened in my home on my daughters birthday, there was no way I wasn't going to say anything. That evening is when I received the abusive txt from the mum. I've been in contact with the Constable and there will be no report as no charges are being layed. I expressed some concerns that I have for next year, I explained in full detail the exact events that occurred on my DD's birthday and I feel that the parents need to know this. He asked me if I would like him to go see them and have a talk to them, I was so relieved to hear this and off course agreed. He also said he has a good repore with the High School and he will also talk to the campus principal, which is great. I feel I really need to think about an Intervention Order possibly, sounds so crazy but if that's whats needed I wont hesitate at all. Thank you all for listening, my head is all over the place and it's good to get it all out in here xx.
That's great news! Good to know the Constable is onto it.And is going to have a word to them, I hope it doesn't make the mum more stupid. And awesome that he knows the school and is going to talk to them, this way the other mum cant string a web of lies first.
You have listed every good reason to take out an order. If you feel unsafe receiving text messages or sending your daughter to school (if she's being targeted then this is, indeed, the case), and know that she's willing to make spurious claims against you and members of your family then you have grounds to file for an order - that is exactly what they are there for. Taking out an order isn't crazy, it's the person you're taking the order out against is crazy!
She hasn't laid charges because her 'charge' is ridiculous. You now have grounds for action, and had them since the messages started.
I do feel for her daughter, who is being used by her mother and now being trained in anti-social behaviours, and it's more important than pity that you protect yourself - particularly if the constable will back you on it.
You did everything reasonable from the word go. You took an issue that happened outside of school to her parents and they were unreasonable in their response. All the stuff that happens in school you handled correctly - many school policies, and I assume it might be in your school's, exhort parents to deal directly with the school and not with other kids or their families. Going to parents is tricky - even ones you get along with. So, just keep doing what you're doing and go that extra mile to protect yourselves.
You're on the right track
It doesn't make sense. What were they going to charge your DD with??? Children can't be charged with bullying. It seems really strange that a constable has told you that someone is trying to get the police to charge your DD with bullying, especially as she would have been 10 at the time of the alleged incident.
The Constable only mentioned charges as I was requesting a written report, the parents filed an official complaint but no further action is required. They may have had the intention of charging DD, I don't know, she turned 11 last year.
Of all things I completely forgot we had a video of DD's party and the girl did dance, she also kicked over my dining room chair, had completely forgotten about that. The principal from primary school suggested for DD's file from seeing the Welfare Officer be sent across to the high school, so getting that organized and I have made another appointment with the Yr 7 coordinator to speak of some more concerns.
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