She did not just say that..........

[Dansta]

thats just...stupid on the womens behalf! i was picked on from grade 3 right though to year 12. both in and out of school.

so BR i can honestly say i can understand where your son stood. in year 12 i snapped. shoved a girl into a wall, and i reported myself to a teacher. the dept. principal tried to have me suspended. despite the fact i'd reported being bullied to several teachers - they blamed me. the bully? well she walked away with a bruised shoulder and a dented ego. i walked away knowing she'd gotten her come uppance. i dont condone violence, walk away and ignore often works, but some times -sadly- people need that proverbial kick up the bum to open their eyes...and im sure your son has opened these others boys eyes right up.

complain, and very loudly too. no one has the right to tell you that your son is being bullies because of 'medical' issues. let alone "issues at home" if there is none. they need to look into the bully as chances are they have issues. if want some one to talk to, im happy to listen.

[Mak]

Ok so that is utterly ridiculous. I can only imagine how stressed out you are anyway without the doubt that some how it *might* be your fault (which it is not btw).
As a first point can you make a complaint about the statement that was made to you. To my simple mind bullying is bullying full stop. There should not be any looking for reasons to excuse such behaviour - that is how I read her comment. Any medical reasons would be discrimination and looking for other 'reasons' is simply inexcusable. She is not exactly breeding an environment of support and acceptance of others differences is she? Also who would complain of bullying if this is the standard response, I certainly doubt anyone would.
As other people have suggested could you organise a conference with the school, so include some of Ds' teachers to gauge the general consensus before you involve the boys and the other parents. You may get a better picture of what is going on.
I feel so infuriated for you - take care and good luck.