Thanks guys
Ive jsut gotten of the phone with the principal. He and I dont have a very good *cough* track record and itold him im not ringing to be a ***** but out of concern, explained the situation and my concern that the teacher couldnt tell me when she initially came out to the car...he was not happy at all and promised to talk to her about it and get back to me. He also told me he has given his staff strick rules that SNC are NOT to be touched in anyform...hmmmmm thank god for that
On a positive it also mended a bridge between him and me as I told him I cannot do PSG meetings because I get far to emotional at them...which he and asked me if I could please attend the next one
One hell of a dame week in this house I tell you...man can we start it again

ETA I also made a point of discussing with the principal how hard we have worked to get him to like that class and I dont want a stupid thing like this setting him back..he agreed fully