thanks for your reply bubno3 xox

AFM: It certainly gets easier, you get into a routine of getting up and working and getting the children ready. The girls have coped with it amazingly well... we all have. it works because I make it work... by the weekend my house sometimes resembles that a bomb has gone through it. But I clean it up and the next week starts...

I no longer feel guilty for the girls having a weekend over at their dads, because that is precious time with him and their brothers, and I have some santiy, I've even been out a few times ;-)

it's funny reading back on this thread and i remember the mess I was then everything was so new, the working, DD at school, the girls were just starting to go to their Dad's 2nd weekend. but it's even better to know that it has turned out just fine