Again? What to do!

[Glamoreyez]

Ok, so my DS comes home after being at his dads for a week for the school holidays and tells me that his dad accused him of stealing and told him he is a stealer and had to search him before I picked him up.
WTF? You ask? I ask the same god damn thing!

The story is - he accidently took a Ben10 figurine home from his dads and his dad found out. XDH then calls him said stealer and searches him before he leaves and goes on this rant about how he is not trustworthy etc. DS is 6. 6! This upset him dreadfully and it took 48 hours to convince him he did nothing wrong and is not a thief.

DS had his regular fortnightly weekend visit the weekend just passed and we went for a walk last night and I ask him if he was searched. FFS HE WAS! He says he was standing with his hands in his pockets and his "father" made him turn his pockets out to show what he was hiding! He was hiding his friggen hands!!!!

This is getting beyond a joke.

[ss_storm]

wow..that's a bit OTT! Your poor DS..bet XDH doesn't realise if he keeps it up your DS isn't going to want to go and visit him anymore. Poor kid

[TeniBear]

Woah, overreaction much?! Sounds like your ex needs a good hard slap across the brain.

[kawazuki]

so what if he took a ben 10 figurine..
it was prob his figurine

poor kid.

being told your a stealer at 6 and un trustworthy is wrong

[sconeonamission]

oh, poor kid.

[Jaycee]

your poor DS! Does you EXH not realise how impressionable (sp?) kids are at that age and how something like this could affect him for a long time?? What a doosh bag!

[~breeze~]

Poor boy
It's terrible accusing him like that & calling him a thief all the time... it might make him actually start stealing, you know the saying "give me the name, I'll play the game". I hope he doesnt but your idiot ex has no idea what negative affect that would be having on his son.
Why are there so many stupid "fathers" out there... seriously!
for your poor little guy

[littlelara]

I can't even imagine, it must be heartbreaking for you.
You ex sounds like a real bully.
How does it work if a child refuses visitations? Can you document emotional trauma? There must be some kind of advocate. Maybe someone here will be able to give you some advice. Or legal aid?
I don't have anything useful in terms of advice, I just feel so sad for you and your little boy.
I'm so sorry

[~Serenity~]

is there a way you can get your ds in to see a councellour or phsyc or someone and then go too get the time he has to go reduced on account of xdh being a moron

[Glamoreyez]

DS refuses all the time and I have to make him go. If I don't I can be fined and jailed... Then we would have to go live with XDH which would be so much worse!
Currently fighting the powers that be to get DS into counselling... The school is beyond useless - my post about that can be found in the primary and secondary schools section. Social Services have done nothing so we are looking into the cost of a private clinic for DS.
Anyone know a big hole anywhere??