Amicably Separated Parents: Any Still Do Stuff Together?

[sushee]

Yep, I am friendly with both my XHs and we spend Christmases and birthdays together when we can and even have each other round if the kids are going to be there. XH1 and his wife and XH2 and DP and I skype to collectively talk about the kids (DP is still getting used to this!) but yes, we all have an amicable relationship. In fact when I recently visited Perth I stayed with XH2 with my DP's full consent.

It has been confusing sometimes for my DS3 coz he's young and he thinks us getting along means we might get back together, and that's taken some explaining. But I'd rather explain than for him to see us at each other's throats. And this way he has times where he has both mummy and daddy and it doesn't have to be mutually exclusive.

My XH1 and I have not always had the best relationship in the early years after our break up and I think that that was detrimental to my older kids. They think it's awesome that we all get on now. It's not always comfortable for the adults, but we suck it up and are friendly and open and discuss things because it's what we know we have to do for our kids.

[Loveinamist]

We tried to have it amicable but it just ended up with me being controlled my exDH again. Became really difficult when we met new people as well! In my case we had to have a nasty patch so that I could realise that I needed to move on and become my own person. We are amicable again now though