i came across this site whilst trying to work out whether to be a mum or not. I'm a single, financially independant and 36yrs old,& at 7 weeks pregnant i told my 'friend' that he was going to be a father again (he already has another 5yr old child with a sep ex)and i told my family that i was expecting. Two very separate reactions - 'friend' a little shocked (to be expected) & at first comment not wanting to be a dad again, and my family who were shocked but happy that they were potentially getting another grandchild. On one hand i'd love to be a mum but on the other hand i'm terrified. I'd love to hear any advice as i know my journey whatever i decide will be hard.
Samm,
I'm a single mum. I so wanted to be a mum that I was willing to go it alone. I have little support. My mother is in the country and while she loves the idea of being a grandma it is not something that she manages with. I have my brother close by and he is great. I won't kid you it is hard and very tiresome at times. But it is worth every single moment of it.
The one comment I make when people ask me is that i just wish I had done it earlier. I absolutely love being a mum. My DD is just awesome and awe inspiring!!!!!
Hi jmmum,
Thanks for checking!
i'm going ok - i'm afraid work is a big distractiion until the morning sickness kicks in during the afternoon. i had parents call me today & check up me which is nice. i was reading last night about the 'other' option which made me a bit sick so i guess i've made up my mind to progress - so now just have to tell the dad who lives overseas. i do have a question for you( a little bit in advance i know) but the whole birth cerificate thing - what happens if the dad is not around?
Hi.
As far as I know you can name the father with out his signiture. If you want him to be on there.
I know that if they are on there you can't take the child out of the country with out his permission. I'm not too sure about that if he is in a different country. It's probably something that doesn't matter at all, but I have a friend who just had a little boy & is single & who decided to leave the name off.
Her son will still know his father, but she discussed it with his family & they all agreed with her. She has a 7 year old DD as well.
i know its exremmely early days to worry about that stuff but i'm trying to do as much homework as possible and be relatively informed. As much as i feel quite calm about it all, its a bit scary knowing you're going to look afer something other than a cat!
Another Single mum to be
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