Samm,
I'm a single mum. I so wanted to be a mum that I was willing to go it alone. I have little support. My mother is in the country and while she loves the idea of being a grandma it is not something that she manages with. I have my brother close by and he is great. I won't kid you it is hard and very tiresome at times. But it is worth every single moment of it.
The one comment I make when people ask me is that i just wish I had done it earlier. I absolutely love being a mum. My DD is just awesome and awe inspiring!!!!!
Hi jmmum,
Thanks for checking!
i'm going ok - i'm afraid work is a big distractiion until the morning sickness kicks in during the afternoon. i had parents call me today & check up me which is nice. i was reading last night about the 'other' option which made me a bit sick so i guess i've made up my mind to progress - so now just have to tell the dad who lives overseas. i do have a question for you( a little bit in advance i know) but the whole birth cerificate thing - what happens if the dad is not around?
Hi.
As far as I know you can name the father with out his signiture. If you want him to be on there.
I know that if they are on there you can't take the child out of the country with out his permission. I'm not too sure about that if he is in a different country. It's probably something that doesn't matter at all, but I have a friend who just had a little boy & is single & who decided to leave the name off.
Her son will still know his father, but she discussed it with his family & they all agreed with her. She has a 7 year old DD as well.
i know its exremmely early days to worry about that stuff but i'm trying to do as much homework as possible and be relatively informed. As much as i feel quite calm about it all, its a bit scary knowing you're going to look afer something other than a cat!
With regards to the birth cert, if you are living within Australia it is highly recomended you have the fathers name on it.
One because of the laws regarding child support. If he is not known or on the cert then you will lose money from you payments.
and he will be required to pay child support as well
Good luck with your decision , just so you know even though i have 3 kids on my own i wouldnt change it for the world!!
Yeah, I was going to mention that. It can affect your FTB Part A I think. My friend rang & spoke to them about that & she has to see a councellor to discuss it. Once she's done that I'm pretty sure her payments will be OK. She's just planning on telling them she only met him once & only knew his first name.
I know it's not 'right' to do that, but he's in rehab & would only have to pay $20 a month when he gets out anyway. & she's had way too much trouble with her DD's father & child support to bother.
I've just found out that i'm 7 weeks pregnant and going to be doing the parenting thing alone - my now ex - who dumped me the day after i told him is hinting that he doesn't want any involvement. I've just been reading these posts in regards to the BC and i found it to be quite helpful. Thanx - it's a big comfort being able to read stuff and talk to other people in similar situations cause i'm sooo scared.
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