Anthony Robbins talks about this alot in his relationship programs (see if you can google some on youtube). He says that some people leave using the reasoning that they don't have enough in common etc but he's never met any couple that have split up that were getting their needs met.

I highly recommend his relationship program, this man is a genius The clips of the interventions with couples who you think will never get back together after what's been going on... its incredible. What we think the problem is, often is far from it.

The first link has some great clips and some previews of some interventions (so powerful, check them out) and the second link is their blog.

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/products/relationships/
Tony Robbins Love and Passion Blog