Anyone divorced a spouse just because they arent suited?

[shellbell3]

It sounds like a tough situation so just wanted to offer Have you considered councilling maybe for just yourself to work thru your feelings abd work out exactly what you want and are looking for?

[BellyBelly]

Yup Nelle, 5 Love Languages is an essential for couples I think

[Inanna]

I think that's why most people get divorced my love. I also think that it doesn't have to be that way...
Kel has given you some great advice that I would take and run with. There is much to learn through this. We are changing every moment. None of us are who we were when we started out together. It's up to you both if you choose to take the challenge & walk the growth line together or apart.

It can be done. When there is no abuse & an honest desire to grow together I believe anything is possible.

[BekZ]

Freya. I know you have been struggling for a long time now. I do tend to agree with Kelly's suggestion of exploring why you are feeling the way you are and making very well thought out decision. It is hard, I know. Over the last year I struggled with the relationship with my DH to point where I felt that I could walk away. But I worked out that it was not my DH, it was me and my needs weren't being met at the time. Interestingly he became distant because I was shutting him out and he felt his needs were not being met. So we were living parallel each other and existing for many months. I felt trapped and "just a sahm without a purpose." My DH just wanted affection and acknowledgment of which he was receiving neither. So we've spent heaps of time talking, and trying to be mindful of each other and I've fallen for him again.

I really do hope you come to a point where you are at peace with how you feel and make the right decision for you.

[Fleur]

I went through a period of about 18 months where I was on the verge of leaving DH. No one reason, I was just kind of ... over it... I thought we were mismatched (I still do TBH), I was bored, tired of drama... just over it.
I think the lack of a single clear reason though kind of kept me there, and one day the fog lifted. I would love to say I worked it all out but that wouldn't be honest.. I don't know what happened. We just got through. I know he's gone through similar stages. I wonder if sometimes it might just be one of those things.

Sorry, that's really blithery & not making much sense...big hugs, I hope you work it out & reach what's best for you