I am in two minds about what is the best thing to do right now
a month ago I moved 6 hours away from family and friends and XH, to start a new life. Where I am living atm I have cousins, I am living with one cousin atm. However up here the family politics are horrendous!! There is SO much b!tchyness constantly! It is doing my head in. Plus, DS is 6 hours away from his Dad, who he has only just started to properly bond with, I feel like moving him so far away is not the right thing to do for their relationship. I feel very much all on my own up here, though I love the town, it is a lot bigger than where I was living.
So my choice is to stay here, find a house to rent and do everything on my own, or move back home where all my friend and family are and live with my Dad for a while, while I get on my feet again. At Dads I would have no rent or bills to pay and probably very little food to buy. So living with Dad would certainly make sense financially. Plus then DS would only be an hour away from his Dad and could see him every week instead of every coupld of months. I could see my sisters, nephews and my Mum all the time, plus my friends. Also Archie is very close to his Nanna and Poppy so it would be good for him to to keep the close relationships he has with them. Dad's house is where I grew up and the backyard is awesome for arch, he has trampoline, swing, bike, scooter track, labrador dog who he adores......hmmmmm, looks like the pros of going home to Dads outweigh the positives of staying here. When I moved up here I was only thinking of myself, trying to get far away fom XH so my heart could mend, but I am thinking that the best thing for DS would be to go back home where our whole support network is....
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