I'm with Pumpkin - you don't want someone like that in yours or your baby's life right now. When I fell pregnant with DS1 my then partner was very supportive at first but within a couple of weeks had changed his mind. He also suggested an abortion. I told him that wasn't going to happen and that I would raise my child on my own. To put it really really short: I told him that he could consider the child "gone" and that he wouldn't have to ever pay me a cent. The only thing I extracted from him was a promise not to deny his child should they ever come looking for him.

What followed was extremely difficult. I lost mutual friends who thought I'd tried to trap him - I was the villian in the drama. I did not put my baby's father's name on his birth certificate and have never (in 16 years) received maintenance. There were times that the money would have come in handy but I figured that it wasn't worth it. What I had in my arms at home, my precious baby, was more important than anything money could buy.

If you need any support don't hesitate to ask, you can also send me a private message if you want to.