Thank you for letting me know that and the offer of talking, that's really sweet.

Hmmm food for thought and on the similar line of thinking to what I was contemplating doing to make this situation feel "right" for me, and to get through this stage and the horrible feelings and resolution for the longer term. I will think further about this and it sounds like it worked for you even though it was hard. I don't want anything to do with his money, and I had never even thought about it until he mentioned it. However if I do want him on the Birth Certificate does he have to be around to witness/sign this?

Wow, if I have a daughter there is no way I would want him to be a role model of what men are like and how they treat women

It's sad that he won't have to deal with me telling him he is a jerk, he'll have to deal with his son or daughter telling him! The damage is done.

Thanks again.