Thank you for letting me know that and the offer of talking, that's really sweet.
Hmmm food for thought and on the similar line of thinking to what I was contemplating doing to make this situation feel "right" for me, and to get through this stage and the horrible feelings and resolution for the longer term. I will think further about this and it sounds like it worked for you even though it was hard. I don't want anything to do with his money, and I had never even thought about it until he mentioned it. However if I do want him on the Birth Certificate does he have to be around to witness/sign this?
Wow, if I have a daughter there is no way I would want him to be a role model of what men are like and how they treat women
It's sad that he won't have to deal with me telling him he is a jerk, he'll have to deal with his son or daughter telling him! The damage is done.
I agree with the other girls, you are better of without him in your life.
He has shown he is not mature enough to be a father at this time.
Any man who lays his hands on his baby's mumma while pregnant is definitely not worth it.
Being a single mum is very daunting but it is amazing what we can do...I am a single mum of 7 and it is not easy at times but my kids are better of with it this way.
You and your bubba deserve better than that.
You know it's only been just over a year since DS2 was born and I can't remember if I got DH to sign his birth certificate as well.
DS1 was born in Queensland (I note you're on the Gold Coast) and I just put a big line through "father's details" and an N/A (as in not applicable .... it felt therapeutic tee-hee-hee.) and signed the form and sent it off.
I agree with what RainbowB said it is daunting but it is amazing what you can do. The minute you hold your little bub in your arms you will just know that you will be able to do anything for this little person. You will find a strength that you didn't know you have - actually, it sounds to me that you've already found it.
The good times will always outweigh the bad. DS1 and I have an awesome relationship. Up until he was 10 it was just him and me and I'm happy to say that he is a well adjusted, bright, funny, wonderful person who is a fantastic son, brother and friend.
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