ah crap i didnt see this for ages!! sorry
well its similar situation with my XP babe, he works away and hardly ever rings to c how jade is then suddenly he has a 2 week holiday and wants jade for half of it. after not seeing her since july! he smokes weed too and is alot harder on her than me (he does controlled crying well more like leaving her to it but you get my drift)
but at the end of the day i know he would never hurt her and would do anything for her, he loves her to bits and he is only allowed to have DD at his mums house so she is there in case he spazzes out or something. legally well no the court would think if he smokes pot then he cant have Freya, but its really YOUR call...do YOU think Freya is safe there? if not then just dont let her its simple :P
ill pm u my mobby number on fb and feel welcome to text me whenever we can ***** about our stoner exs lol!! xx