Ok - bare with me...

Background History:
Xdh was all types of abusive while we were together. I have had counselling and have moved onto a better place. We have been seperated and divorced for more than 5 years now...

DS has become very angry, withdrawn, negative and is lacking confidence. He says he is a very naughty boy and is stupid and constantly yells "Is that how you want it, huh?" which has NEVER been said in this house EVER. He also recently started wetting the bed which he has not done since he was 2.5yrs old. He is stressed out all the time and is constantly getting sick. He is always tired and doesn't want to eat much...
He started school this year and also started having to spend 7 consecutive nights with his dad during school holidays. He is hysterical before he has to go for his 2nights access visit every fortnight, says he hates going and wants to stay home. This is getting worse as time goes on.
DS used to be a very happy, relaxed, confident and easy going child until his access visits started going for longer.