Thanks Kat, I think it's really nice when someone aknowledges how hard it can be...and it is hard but it someways its easier. It's not easier if you have someone you love and who is a help but it is easier if the other person you have with you is more of a hinderence! For me it's way easier being a single Mum then putting up with XDH and his crap!

I think a lot of people don't want to moan (I mean really, who wants to hear it??) so it's nice when someone says "well done". When my Mum came over if I had a bit of a moan she would say "wow you'd think you're the only person who'd ever had 3 kids" Erm well she did and she was married, didn't work and had 2 sets of Grandparents to help...

Anyway I digress...I don't think you came accross in that way at all...so thank you!