Thx mum1984 for your reply,

im really struggling with being ready to let him have her without me nearby, im just not ready yet theres no trust there, he's never wanted to change a nappy, and she just doesnt know him yet he is not totally consistent with his visiting doesn't understand most things about what she does day to day (i try to explain things when hes here and it just goes in one ear and out the other).. and i just dont know what i can do to make myself feel better about the whole thing..its like im trusting the most precious thing in the world to a complete stranger, he's just not the person i though i knew.. how do i move on from that how do i become the better person? sorry theirs prob alot of questions no one can really answe, im in a place right now of learning and growing to accept everything as it is but its hard thing to face sometimes im continualling battling with it...

i hear all you beautiful single mums out there, and hear how strong you guys are and how you all do it why cant i?? i just wish i had the strength you all have i feel as though im just battling with this one thing and i cant get passed it, i see the other side but i can't get there IYKWIM